5 Causes You Don’t Get Sufficient Clear Relaxation When You are Working From A To-Do Checklist

That is Half 2 of my 5-Half Clear Relaxation Collection. We perfectionists LOVE a very good to-do listing…

However working from a to-do listing makes it actually difficult to get sufficient clear relaxation – even for those who’re making an actual effort to have extra work-life stability.

And I share the 5 the reason why – and useful examples for every cause – on this second episode of my clear relaxation collection. I additionally discuss why there’s by no means any time for relaxation and why you’re feeling behind if you work from a to-do listing. 

If you happen to solely get a break from your enterprise if you’re busy recovering from burnout, this clear relaxation collection – and at present’s episode particularly – goes to be insanely useful.

Discover the total episode transcript and present notes at samlaurabrown.com/episode525.

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Introduction

Hello, and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Challenge. A podcast filled with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My identify is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake, to allow them to get out of their very own means and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the perfectionist getting shit achieved group teaching program, which is in any other case generally known as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that will help you with your enterprise, you’ll be able to observe me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.

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This episode is the second half in a 5 half collection about clear relaxation. Clear relaxation is if you end up resting with out guilt, it’s intentional non-business time. And it will aid you get right into a development mindset, get out of your individual means in your enterprise. So you’ll be able to present up absolutely and do all of the issues that you understand it’s essential do. So simply to recap, the place this matches in with the expansion mindset and within the course of for creating that. So the PGSD course of is get out of your individual means.

And that includes planning correctly as a perfectionist, this includes setting your development purpose, we break that down into quarterly milestones. After which we’re utilizing energy planning each week to pursue our quarterly milestones, and finally, our development purpose, observe via together with your plans, relaxation with out guilt, and repeat and wish to underline that relaxation with out guilt and repeat. That’s what we’re speaking about on this collection.

And I wish to just be sure you learn about PGSD, and that you understand that you’re invited to hitch us on the doorways to PGSD that stands for perfectionist getting shit achieved. We’ll be opening at 6am New York time on the 4th of April, and shutting at 11:59pm New York time on the eleventh of April. So in case you are somebody who’s burning out, perhaps you’re working in spurts of motivation, you’ve gotten these intense intervals of productiveness, and then you definitely sort of fall off the wagon for per week or a month, and then you definitely get again on and also you’re insanely productive.

Since you’re making an attempt to make up for previous procrastination and simply this complete factor, I actually wish to invite you into PGSD. So you may get into that development mindset so you may get out of your individual means. You’ll be able to, as I mentioned on the high, present up absolutely and do all of the issues that you understand it’s essential do to construct your enterprise. So let’s discuss why it’s actually difficult to get clear relaxation if you end up working from a to do listing, we perfectionist, we love a very good to do listing. We actually like we love being productive. That’s like high 5 issues we wish to really feel we wish to really feel productive, we wish to really feel organized.

And so having a to do listing permits us to dwell on this land of hope. It’s like this type of lottery ticket mentality that once we’re writing out this to do listing, we get to consider what if, what if I used to be productive and like, we get to really feel virtually as if we’ve ticked off the to do lists simply by writing it out, then we will find yourself on this procrasti-planning, the place we’re writing and rewriting and rewriting to do lists of duties that we all know we’re not going to get achieved, or they’re so obscure that this complete lengthy to do listing simply turns into so overwhelming that we don’t even know the place to begin. So that you may end up on this dilemma that you simply really feel like you haven’t any time to get something achieved. After which if you do have the time to get shit achieved, you don’t even know the place to start to do nothing in any respect.

After which that provides extra stress to the whole lot as a result of you’ve gotten even much less time now to get stuff achieved. So I would like you to know that that is only a planning downside. Your observe via downside is only a planning downside. And anybody can learn to plan correctly as perfectionist. So I wish to discuss to you as properly on this episode about what it appears to be like wish to be planning correctly as a perfectionist, what the three steps of energy planning are, why that doesn’t contain working from a to do listing.

So that you’re actually set as much as have it’s simple to get clear relaxation, as a result of in case you are making an attempt to take what’s being shared about clear relaxation on this collection, and use no matter to do listing technique or perhaps you’ve received all of those totally different like paper planners or various things like that, or perhaps you’ve gotten been calendaring. And you’ve got been time blocking. So that you simply have like chunks of time for like Instagram content material and work on web site and like that sort of factor, which isn’t energy planning.

So with energy planning, we’re working from a calendar however we’re doing it in a means that will get our perfectionist mindset on our aspect. And that’s not what sometimes tends to occur. Like after I first began working from a calendar earlier than I used to be energy planning and actually found out what that appears like. I used to be what I might name time blocking and it was simply so insane what I anticipated of myself. I mainly anticipated myself to not eat, to not have like several time between issues.

So like if I received house from someplace I would like to leap into one thing straight away that I didn’t want actually any sleep and that the whole lot would get achieved tremendous rapidly that I’d by no means have any resistance or motivational issues or something like that. Like I used to be simply planning for this idealistic model of myself that I had in my thoughts. And it was lots of stress, I at all times fell behind. And inside a few days, I had simply utterly deserted my calendar altogether. And I used to be again to the to do listing. So perhaps that’s what you’re doing. Simply wish to be clear, that’s not what it appears to be like wish to be energy planning.

And once we are going via the three steps of energy planning, in order that’s your energy hour, your little tweaks, your weekly evaluate, I educate that in depth intimately inside PGSD. If you find yourself doing that, you’re planning in a means that will get your perfectionist mindset in your aspect, which implies you’re not over planning anymore, which is what I used to be simply speaking about. You’re not below planning, the place you’ve gotten these actually obscure plans. So I used to be speaking about that when it’s like, work on Instagram stuff.

After which it’s like work on web site, once we simply have these obscure chunks, that’s below planning when issues aren’t particular sufficient for us to really observe via on and that’s very overwhelming as properly. And we’re simply sort of winging it on this obscure means. Our mind is like, I don’t actually know what to do. So I’m simply going to do nothing in any respect. So we wish to be sure that we aren’t over planning, we’re not below planning and we’re additionally maintaining our plans workable. In order that’s the little tweaks, step of energy planning, it’s so vital we try this.

And we are likely to not try this, once we are time blocking and doing these issues. And we undoubtedly are likely to not maintain our plans workable once we are working from a to do listing, as a result of it’s not likely workable to start with. It’s simply this lengthy want listing of stuff that our motivated self, we’d like to do. And perhaps you’ve gotten as properly, simply considering of various ways in which I’ve heard our PGSDers deliberate earlier than they joined PGSD, that they might have a to do listing for each class of life.

So that you may need a enterprise to do listing and you’ve got perhaps a home to do listing, then you’ve gotten a to do listing regarding well being and health, such as you’ve simply making an attempt to cowl each space directly. And it’s so overwhelming. So I wish to discuss on this episode about why it’s so laborious to get clear relaxation if you’re working from a to do listing particular causes for that. And I wish to share a bit with you about energy planning and what that appears like.

And the way it makes it simple to get clear relaxation. After which within the subsequent episode, we’re going to be going into element with that plan out your clear relaxation. And particularly when it comes to the three steps of energy planning, the place clear relaxation matches in with every of these, so that you’re actually arrange for fulfillment with that. And once more, I wish to invite you into PGSD, to essentially not simply perceive these items intellectually, however to essentially have all of the instruments, have all of the assist and have the dedication, and we make the three month dedication to energy planning, you’ve gotten the dedication to creating this work as a result of it does work.

It’s so unimaginable, it does work and the advantages of getting clear relaxation, and simply having the ability to sit down at first of the week. And at any time when you are able to do your Energy Hour everytime you need. However having the ability to take a look at your calendar, and you understand precisely what it’s essential do. You know the way a lot time you’ve gotten, you understand that you’ve got thought-about that perhaps at instances you’re gonna have low vitality, or perhaps like me, perhaps you’ve gotten youngsters.

And also you’ve received plans which can be workable, that embody buffer time that you understand that if one thing comes up unexpectedly, that it is possible for you to to regulate and adapt to that that you’re being so rattling form to your self together with your calendar, however not in a means that allows you to off the hook, you’re being form to your self within the sense that you’re really giving your self the total alternative to indicate up for your self and your enterprise and your objectives that you’ve got. And to additionally handle your self and to additionally handle your loved ones or no matter else you’ve gotten occurring. It’s life altering, to have the ability to have that sense of readability and calm.

And that container to do brave issues and to problem your self and to blow your individual thoughts and to indicate your self what is feasible. And it’s simply actually, actually, actually laborious to do this if you end up working from a to do listing. So with all that mentioned, let’s discuss among the causes that it’s actually laborious to get clear relaxation if you end up working from a to do listing. And this implies for those who’re working from a to do listing, and there’s a time and a spot for to do lists. Don’t get me unsuitable, like I nonetheless use slightly to do listing for my life admin stuff.

However in the case of enterprise, we don’t wish to be working from a to do listing. It simply makes it really easy to get in your individual means and to have your perfectionist mindset working towards you rather than having it be just right for you. So listed here are 5 causes that clear relaxation is so laborious if you end up working from a to do listing. So the primary is that there’s by no means time for relaxation. There’s no time left over. So lots of instances once we are working from an extended to do listing. And once more with all that talking from expertise right here like I would like to scrub all these lengthy to do lists.

So I get it. And I’ve coached lots of of PGSDers who we’re utilizing to do lists. And it’s not like we weren’t getting something achieved in any respect, you’ve gotten in all probability been capable of become profitable in your enterprise and expertise some extent of success. However you at the moment are bumping up towards that subsequent stage. And you understand, that it’s essential work on how you’re managing your time and the way you’re managing your thoughts. Time administration is my administration. So you understand that that is one thing that it’s essential work on. So anyway, all of that to say,

I get it, there’s nothing unsuitable, like we get instructed about these to do lists and simply, you understand, write an enormous lengthy to do listing, after which simply decide your high priorities, after which deal with them. And that simply doesn’t work. When we have now a perfectionist mindset, and we’re in that mindset, and we’re, as an alternative of, you understand, simply having the priorities, after which being ones we will really get achieved, then we decide these obscure priorities that we all know aren’t actually going to get achieved.

However we actually ought to do them as a result of we’ve been procrastinating on them for therefore lengthy. After which there’s these simply, they’re simply these huge, obscure beasts of a activity that we really feel so overwhelmed that we don’t even know the place to begin, we simply bounce from activity to activity to activity, not getting something absolutely full. However we’re so busy, as a result of we’re similar to doing slightly little bit of this, after which slightly little bit of that, after which slightly little bit of that. After which we don’t get something achieved in any respect.

After which we’re like, properly, I simply must do something I can. So then we find yourself doing busy work simply in order that we will really feel like we’re doing one thing after which when the following week comes proper now let’s do the listing once more. And following that recommendation. It doesn’t work for perfectionist, most recommendation doesn’t work for perfectionist in the case of planning and productiveness. And it’s gonna make your perfectionist mindset work towards you. So when that’s taking place, then the following week, you’re like, properly, shit, I’m much more behind on issues, there’s much more to this to do listing and there’s extra stress.

And that simply sends us into overwhelm. We don’t do something in any respect that complete factor. So once we are sorry, I’m very passionate, I’m not gonna apologize, I’m very obsessed with this, it’s so highly effective to learn to plan correctly as a perfectionist. That’s why I wish to aid you with this collection. That’s why I wish to aid you inside PGSD. And so I’m now dedicated to sharing what this episode is about, which is the to do listing and the place to get clear, proper. So there’s no time left over for relaxation once we are working from a to do listing.

So we have now that lengthy to do listing, what tends to occur is it’s longer than we have now time for. And there’s all kinds of issues on it. And sometimes, as properly, the duties that we have now on a to do listing have very obscure. So it’s issues like, you understand, Instagram submit, and it’s simply these obscure. Let me consider what else we might have on to do listing. It’s similar to these concepts of issues, it’s not clear sufficient that we might know precisely like if we needed to sit down at our desk to do one thing, what we have to begin with.

So as an alternative of being damaged down into particular outcomes that we have to create an every of these outcomes would add as much as the general consequence that we wish to create. For instance, in case you are recording a podcast episode, as an alternative of say, for instance, you wish to begin a podcast, as an alternative of getting it’s like begin podcast in your to do listing. That’s overwhelming, isn’t it? Possibly you’ve gotten it in your to do listing and you understand, and you retain pushing it off. Begin podcasts, your brains, like I don’t know what the fuck to do with that.

However for those who as an alternative have it’s consequence oriented chunked down, that is what we do in our energy planning, we chunk it down. So that you’re going to have for instance, half-hour to analysis, or perhaps it’s an hour to analysis, begin a podcast and even higher half-hour to entry your individual knowledge on what it’s essential do. If you happen to’re going to begin a podcast, for those who’re going to provide another person recommendation on what to do, what would you inform them, after which to undergo every of these steps. So perhaps step one is you create the identify for the podcast.

PS don’t overthink which you could change your identify on your podcast like I did, then perhaps you’ll add a notice, brainstorm 10 episodes, then you definitely’re going to pick three episodes to file then you definitely’re going to file them like I’m simply making stuff up. However we weren’t like that’s a lot simpler to observe once we break issues down like that clearly versus sometimes when we have now a to do listing, it tends to be like begin podcasts, that are brains like, “no thanks”, I’m not going to do this. So anyway, the place had been you planning on this means. And we have now this lengthy to do listing filled with obscure duties. And it’s for much longer than we even have time for. There’s by no means any time left over for relaxation.

And we are likely to once we’re working from a to do listing be on this mentality, that we are going to relaxation when the whole lot is completed and also you could be within the perception that you simply’re simply the sort of one that prefers to relaxation and finds it simple to relaxation as soon as the whole lot is full, and also you’re the sort of one that would somewhat get the whole lot achieved and never relaxation, then who would somewhat relaxation and have issues not be completed. And I get it. I see you. I see. However what I wish to lovingly invite you to think about is that the explanation that you simply love getting like being this one that would simply somewhat be busy than resting is since you simply must learn to really feel secure resting. And likewise the explanation that the whole lot doesn’t get achieved is since you aren’t resting.

It’s not this complete, like, properly, I’ll get the whole lot achieved as soon as I relaxation. You’re not getting the whole lot achieved since you don’t relaxation. And for this reason this complete collection is on clear relaxation, why that is one thing that we actually work on inside PGSD. And we actually take it significantly like not that it’s this heavy factor, however that it’s not one thing we simply gloss over. And I’ll try this if we get to it. Clear relaxation is an important a part of the apply of getting out of your individual means and getting right into a development mindset. And so for those who’re on this mentality of I’ll relaxation, as soon as I’ve gotten the whole lot achieved off my to do listing, it’s going to be very laborious, there’s nothing… Such as you’ll by no means be at that time the place the whole lot is full.

And that’s particularly since you’re not resting. So if you end up working, you’re going to be working in about 50% capability at greatest. Even when like which may since you haven’t had a lot relaxation, which may really feel such as you’re 80%, perhaps you’re 90%. You recognize, it’s not 100. However it feels fairly up there as a result of that’s what you’re used to. And this was enormous for me, I used to love, I was somebody that the very first thing that may go after I was busy was sleep.

And I might see sleep as one thing that was actually unproductive relaxation, sleep something like that tremendous unproductive. And what I spotted as soon as I gave myself permission to relaxation, and as soon as I began to prioritize getting a full night time’s relaxation, which implies about seven and a half hours. And I say that now, this time when I’ve children. Properly, that feels like a dream. However anyway, all of that to say that I considered relaxation as being one thing that was actually unproductive, which isn’t true. Relaxation is such a productive exercise. And I believed that I used to be actually working at my greatest capability.

As soon as I began to get a full night time of sleep, or higher sleep like higher high quality sleep, for those who can’t get extra sleep, there are issues you are able to do to get higher high quality. Anyway, this isn’t about sleep, that is about like resting if you end up awake. However getting extra sleep is vital as properly. However it’s essential actually begin to see that your mind such as you don’t even but understand how a lot your mind is able to for those who’re not getting as a lot clear relaxation as you ought to be. And later within the collection, I’m going to be speaking extra about how a lot clear relaxation to be getting.

I believe it’s within the subsequent episode really I’m going to be going into how a lot to get. However you wish to know now that the explanation you’re not getting the whole lot achieved, is as a result of if you’re working from to do lists, it’s tremendous laborious to get all these obscure, overwhelming duties achieved. And you aren’t prefer it’s this vicious cycle. The place since you’re not resting, you’re not getting the whole lot achieved. And since you’re not getting the whole lot achieved, you’re not giving your self permission to relaxation. Good day burnout that could be a recipe.

So the following factor I wish to point out in the case of the to do listing and clear relaxation, is that getting much less achieved. So wait, what am I writing? Getting much less achieved so relaxation feels much less secure. Oh, sure. Okay. Sorry simply studying my notice that I’ve. So if you end up working from a to do listing, you can be getting much less achieved, than if you end up planning correctly as a perfectionist. Once we are planning correctly, we’re taking into account our actual lives and the truth that we’re not motivated 24/7.

And the truth that we don’t have each second of the day to be productive. And even when we might bodily work on the enterprise and say sit at your laptop computer all day, on daily basis, that your mind, particularly for those who’re doing brave needle movers. That’s one thing we’re actually I imply, I haven’t even received that in my notes right here. However needle movers are so vital.

These are the duties that transfer your enterprise ahead and PGSD we do lots of teaching and serving to you to determine precisely what your needle movers are, no matter what sort of enterprise you’ve gotten, serving to you determine the place to focus your time with the intention to relaxation loads as a result of if you end up working, you’re doing the stuff that issues, not the stuff that simply maintaining you busy and serving to you simply you understand, spin your wheels. So if you end up working from a to do listing and also you’re not planning correctly, you’ll be getting much less achieved. Due to what I’ve already been speaking about that you’ll really feel so overwhelmed. You gained’t know the place to begin. You’re busy on a regular basis, however you’re by no means getting the whole lot achieved.

And so it doesn’t really feel secure to relaxation. As a result of it feels such as you’re already to date behind. When you’ve got been feeling behind and such as you had been by no means on high of the whole lot. Then I wish to invite you to begin planning correctly and to hitch us in PGSD so you’ll be able to learn to try this. So that’s another excuse that clear relaxation is basically laborious if you’re working from a to do listing. It’s simply going to be more durable for it to really feel secure if you aren’t being as productive as you would be.

That’s to not say that it’s essential be at this optimum stage of productiveness so that you can really feel secure and to not have guilt round relaxation. However it’s simpler. I imply, there’s one thing to be mentioned for it’s simpler to relaxation. While you actually know that in your enterprise time, even when that point is basically restricted, that you simply had been doing these items that issues that you simply had been doing it in a transparent and targeted and intentional means, that’s really going to make a distinction in your enterprise, that you simply aren’t spending your whole time on these duties that don’t really matter and aren’t shifting you ahead. It’s so a lot simpler to relaxation with out guilt when you understand that your enterprise time is getting used so properly since you are planning correctly.

However for those who’re working from this lengthy to do listing, and also you’re simply feeling overwhelmed and listing is getting longer and longer, it’s laborious to really feel secure resting, it’s laborious to not really feel responsible if you end up resting. Quantity three, once we are working from a to do listing, we don’t even acknowledge what we have now completed. So in case you are on this mentality, that I’ll relaxation as soon as the whole lot is completed, my guess is that you’ve got been getting issues achieved. So I simply talked about how we get much less achieved than we might be if we aren’t planning correctly, which is true, however you’re nonetheless getting issues achieved.

And also you’re not really capable of acknowledge that your mind isn’t registering that you’re doing issues to develop your enterprise, as a result of your mind is so targeted on the 20 to do objects which can be unticked versus the six that you simply did take off. And so it’s actually laborious to get clear relaxation. If you find yourself feeling once more, such as you aren’t getting something achieved and that you simply’re at all times behind it that you simply don’t have sufficient time for relaxation, you barely have sufficient time for the whole lot as it’s not to mention including any further relaxation. Like are you kidding me.

That’s what I hear so typically from perfectionist who’re working from a to do listing. And for this reason we make the swap to energy planning. As a result of it’s simply going to be a lot simpler to really feel secure resting. And a part of that when we have now energy planning. So we have now the ability hour, little tweaks, weekly evaluate, a part of our weekly evaluate is coaching our mind to note that we did accomplish issues. In case you are attending to the top of the week, and you’re feeling such as you received nothing achieved.

This, I was right here each week that I might get to the top of the week and really feel like I received nothing achieved in any respect. And I simply felt to date behind. And that may put a lot stress on me. After which undoubtedly for positive after I was feeling stress, I couldn’t assume clearly. After which I used to be so overwhelmed about what ought to I deal with, I don’t even know what to spend my time doing. And perhaps I ought to do that. And let’s take a look at what this individual is doing. And perhaps I ought to try this too. And it does this complete factor.

And so that you simply wish to, to know, that is all simply planning issues that may be solved, which is such a gorgeous factor. And once more, why I actually wish to invite you into PGSD, as a result of that’s the greatest place to be studying plan correctly. However once we’re doing that weekly evaluate, we’re coaching our mind to really discover, hey, perhaps proper now, my expertise is that I had an unproductive week as a result of my mind is simply skilled to see what didn’t get achieved.

However once we take that point, and we undergo the method for the weekly evaluate that’s inside PGSD, that you will note that you simply did do issues and you’ll actually begin to once more, create security, it’s a phrase that’s going to come back up loads, you’ll really feel safer resting as a result of your mind will really see we did do issues and it’s not that okay, it’s not you understand, I’m secure as a result of I did do issues and that implies that I’m productive and being productive implies that I’m lovable and all of the issues.

It’s simply figuring out that when you’ll be able to once more, belief your self to get shit achieved when the time comes and to belief your self and to know that your enterprise time is definitely including up. One thing in case you are sacrificing for instance time together with your youngsters or together with your partner or together with your pet or no matter to be engaged on your enterprise. Then it’s simply so useful on your mind to have this time on the finish of the week to see it’s including up it’s working. I’m not behind. And I could be within the messy center and figuring it out. However it’s working and it will add as much as one thing I’m going to get to the place I wish to go.

As like we perfectionist we aren’t nice at celebrating ourselves. It’s a apply and the weekly evaluate actually helps with that. Once we’re working from an limitless to do listing. We don’t rejoice ourselves, we at all times really feel behind and we don’t acknowledge that we are literally getting issues achieved. So the fourth factor I wish to point out is that once we are working from a to do listing. We don’t have any time or any alternative sorry to overachieve, on what we had got down to do. And we don’t have any alternative to have an early mark, within the sense that we don’t have the flexibility to say, Okay, I received the whole lot achieved at present.

Like, for those who’re working from a to do listing, do you ever really feel like that I received the whole lot achieved, perhaps as soon as a month, you’re like, I’m insanely productive. I’m a badass, take a look at me go, I received the whole lot achieved, and you’re feeling superb. However then the opposite 30 days of the month, you’re feeling such as you had been to date behind, we wish to have it’s. And that is what occurs if you’re planning correctly, we wish to have it’s that you’ve got the prospect to finish the whole lot in a day that you simply had set out.

As a result of if you’re planning correctly, you’re doing all of your planning in a means which you could really observe via on. And this helps us obtain a lot extra, it could be a bit scary at first to see like, oh, there’s much less right here on my calendar than I’ve on my to do listing and I wish to be actually productive. However to know like, that’s stuff in your to do listing it wasn’t all getting achieved. And if you end up having it in your calendar.

And once we’re making slightly tweak, so simply gone into this as properly, simply so for those who’re like, What is that this energy planning, inform me extra about it. So intimately in depth, we educate it inside PGSD.

So in the case of our energy planning, once we are doing our Energy Hour at first of the week, we’re actually eager about what are our needle movers that pertains to our development purpose that we have now for the following 12 months and inside PGSD, we’ll evaluate that purpose and ensure it’s actually set on the optimum stage on your development. In order that might be your North Star. And that’s so vital.

Relating to determining your needle movers what you need to deal with together with your time versus what you shouldn’t, that’s all filtered via what your development purpose is. So you actually need to have that to be planning correctly. So you’ve gotten your development purpose. And if you end up doing all of your Energy Hour, you’re determining what your needle movers are, and also you’re placing them in your calendar, and also you’re placing them in your calendar after you schedule your commitments. And after you schedule your clear relaxation, then you definitely put in your needle movers with the time that’s left over.

So as an alternative of this mentality, like I used to be speaking about at first of the episode, the place we’ll relaxation in left over time, once we are energy planning, we’ll like do work within the leftover time that we aren’t resting. And we have to do it that means. As a result of if you consider for instance, with budgeting and saving cash, for those who save what’s left over, there’s nothing left over since you’ve simply spent all of it. However if you to start with put away what you wish to save, and then you definitely spend the remainder.

That’s how one can really save up the cash. So we do the identical factor in the case of clear relaxation that we put apart the clear relaxation. Figuring out that our perfectionist mind doesn’t wish to have the remainder. We’re the individuals who’s like relaxation shouldn’t be the reward. Holding on working and being busy is what we wish to maintain doing. So it could possibly really feel like relaxation is a little bit of a punishment. And we have to unlearn that. And one of the simplest ways to unlearn that’s to apply clear relaxation, and develop a relationship with it.

The place it feels secure to relaxation the place you don’t really feel like your worthiness is in danger if you end up resting. So we wish to be planning out our week the place we’re placing our commitments. So it could be household stuff, it could be perhaps for working in a job, it could be that job, no matter it’s, you’ve received your commitments and stuff it’s essential don’t associated to your enterprise. And as properly with that it could be perhaps you’ve gotten calls or various things which can be already scheduled for a sure time, like something that’s sort of set in stone.

And I additionally has a dedication put in like my exercises and issues like that, then clear relaxation, then it involves the enterprise duties. And the fantastic thing about that is that since you’re really planning in a means which you could observe via on that. And this occurred. Like many days this week, I labored three days per week. So the 2 earlier days on this week that I had been working, the place I used to be capable of end my day a bit early. As a result of I had listed out precisely what I wished to do in that day.

It was one thing I might really observe via on it might require focus, braveness, all of these issues. I do know for me from my weekly opinions that I’ve probably the most brainpower within the morning. So within the morning, I’m doing my focus duties. Within the afternoon, I’m doing duties the place I’m checking in with my crew, posting on Instagram, that sort of factor. And so I had listed out in my calendar what I wanted to do the clear consequence.

So there’s no confusion in any respect or overwhelmed from my mind, I simply know what must get achieved. After which I used to be ready to determine as a result of it’s targeted on the result, that’s what we put within the calendar. As an alternative of like an exercise, we’re targeted on the consequence we wish to have. So if you try this, you had been capable of have your mind give you options that you simply wouldn’t have seen earlier than. And do issues oftentimes extra rapidly, and lower out lots of busy work that means. So I used to be ready to do this and end sooner than I had deliberate.

And as an alternative of bringing in duties from a future day, as a result of I don’t belief myself to be productive once more, that is what occurs once we’re working from a to do listing. We’re like, Oh, my God, I’m so productive at present. I ought to get extra achieved, as a result of I actually wish to capitalize on this. And that’s actually our saying, I don’t belief myself to be productive later as a result of it’s not regular for me to be productive. So I have to be tremendous productive now.

However if you end up planning correctly, you’ll be able to belief your self to be productive on your whole work days, that doesn’t imply properly now these productiveness robots. However you can too belief that in case you are, I don’t know, for those who’re actually battling vitality, perhaps you’ve gotten a well being difficulty, perhaps one thing’s give you your children, perhaps you’re simply not feeling it, which you could maintain your plans workable, you can also make these little tweaks with the intention to maintain following via together with your plans.

However I used to be capable of get the whole lot achieved that I had in my energy planning on that day. And I used to be capable of end early and like actually have a way of completion, which I’ve on daily basis due to energy planning. However I used to be capable of have an early mark, and my mind was capable of get the reward of attending to be let off early, like let loose of college early, as a result of I did all of the issues that I had deliberate to do. And I can belief myself to be productive later.

I can belief, like all my I’ve three work days per week, I can belief that when that point comes, I’m capable of do the work that I must do to construct my enterprise to 1,000,000 {dollars}. And I’m capable of simply end early and really feel secure doing that. After which in my time that I’m not working, I’m capable of get pleasure from that. And that doesn’t imply that it’s like I by no means take into consideration enterprise. Like generally in my clear relaxation. And I’ll discuss this extra within the fifth half the place I discuss what I stand up to my clear relaxation, I might be listening to enterprise podcasts or doing issues like that.

So it’s not… It doesn’t need to be this all or nothing black or white factor. However I don’t have this sense of I must be doing extra or I didn’t do sufficient. As a result of on the finish of the day, I at all times go into my calendar, I spend a few minutes doing my little tweaks and ensuring that the whole lot on my calendar, like my calendar displays what received achieved that day. So I’ll alter issues roughly talking in order that it displays how a lot time it really took me to do sure issues.

That means, after I’m doing my weekly evaluate, I can look again and I can see patterns, and I can see okay, properly after I do a activity and that usually it takes me means longer than if I do the identical activity within the morning and various things like that. So it displays what really received achieved. And if I didn’t get the whole lot achieved, which undoubtedly occurs at instances, then I’ve buffer time deliberate in to my calendar throughout my work hours, in order that I can drag and drop issues into that buffer time. So I’m already anticipating that I may need miscalculated how lengthy one thing will take or how a lot vitality I’d have or no matter.

And so I’ve added buffer time in my calendar throughout my energy hour to account for that. And if the whole lot will get achieved, I’m capable of take that buffer time as relaxation and provides myself much more relaxation than I had deliberate. However if you’re working from a to do listing, it’s actually difficult. To really feel like I received the whole lot achieved. As I mentioned, we would have a kind of days as soon as a month, 12 instances a 12 months, that’s not sufficient. Like we have to be feeling that means on daily basis.

We’re liable for creating that feeling for ourselves, we have now the ability to create that feeling for ourselves. Simply think about having the ability to go to mattress each night time feeling like I did the whole lot I wanted to do at present I’m on observe. Like that could be a feeling that we’re creating. And if you end up in that place, it’s a lot simpler to have self belief to have the ability to put your self on the market do the brave issues. To say no to stuff you wish to say no to love all that totally different stuff.

It’s simply it actually creates this baseline this basis so that you can dwell your life the best way you wish to dwell it have your enterprise the best way you wish to have it to not have stress or burnout from your enterprise. Seep over into each space of your life, if your enterprise is at present affecting your relationships, that you simply’re actually careworn if you’re you understand, exterior of your enterprise time and however you’re considering like I must be working, I must be working or I’m behind on the whole lot. Or it’s not working. I’m by no means gonna get there, that’s going to influence your relationships. After which that impacts your enterprise as properly. Prefer it simply we actually wish to be prioritizing clear relaxation.

Placing that clear relaxation in our calendar earlier than our needle movers. Figuring out that having constraint on how lengthy we have now to get shit achieved goes to assist us be extra artistic and extra productive and actually get our mind working and will probably be ready to do this our brains will be capable of creatively downside remedy and determine obtain our objectives in much less time when it has had time to relaxation and get better and recharge. It’s received a full battery. It’s not simply working at 50% 30%. We’re capable of actually assume successfully to self coach successfully to create what we wish to create in as little time as potential.

Once we are giving our mind the prospect to have a relaxation, it’s additionally a lot simpler to do brave issues when your mind can see a light-weight on the finish of the tunnel and is aware of {that a} relaxation is developing. But when it’s like cool, I’m going to do that brave factor. After which she desires me to do that different brave factor, after which this brave factor, after which this factor and this boring, tedious factor. And like, Hell, no, I’m simply gonna go scroll via Instagram. So when we have now relaxation, we’re giving our mind that break, it actually desires and wishes and deserves.

And that makes us a lot extra productive within the enterprise, and having a transparent finish to your day and a transparent starting as properly. So that is the opposite factor speaking concerning the starting of the day, I imply, this, all of this might be an entire totally different podcast episode, I might file so many about all these items that I’m speaking about. However to simply briefly contact on it right here, that for those who get up feeling behind, you simply have a planning downside, you simply must learn to plan correctly as perfectionist.

And that’s what you do inside PGSD. However actually, that’s the reality that if you get up feeling such as you’re already behind. That’s only a signal that there are some changes that have to be made together with your planning. That’s no method to dwell, it’s not going that will help you be extra productive. And we wish to have you ever beginning your enterprise time. Possibly that’s perhaps you’re employed. When you’ve got a job, like I, after I was working in accounting, I might work on my enterprise earlier than I went to my job, I’d get up early to do this I’ve like an hour.

As a result of I simply discovered working on the finish of the day didn’t work for me, my mind was simply achieved on the finish of the day of labor, I had no artistic vitality left, perhaps you’re working throughout nap instances. Or perhaps you’ve gotten a full day of labor that you simply’re capable of do no matter your scenario is, we wish to be sure that that day is starting at a time that’s greatest for you. Once we’re working from a to do listing, we’re not eager about that we’re like, oh, I would like to begin taking off shit as a result of there’s a lot to do.

So if you end up energy planning, you’ll determine when your day begins, and you utilize your weekly evaluate, and your little tweaks to mirror on if you work greatest. However for instance, for myself, I’ve realized via energy planning that I actually work greatest after I’m doing my most intense considering within the morning. And that I experimented for a couple of 12 months with doing gradual mornings, like I had heard about individuals, you understand, you simply ease into the day with this private improvement routine and all of those various things.

After which sort of that is earlier than I had Lydia and after I was working 4 or 5 days per week. And I might have you learnt, learn a guide for half an hour and meditate and exercise and all these various things. After which I get began at round 11am. And that didn’t work for me. I imply, I used to be nonetheless doing issues. However I can see, after I look again that I get a lot extra achieved and luxuriate in my day a lot extra after I get in. And I do my considering early. And I do the brave duties earlier within the day.

After which I end up ideally like 2:30 – 3 o’clock, I end up after which I can do any stuff after that. And it appears to be like slightly bit totally different in the mean time with the workdays that I’ve and the work setup, and issues like that. However after I was when earlier than I had Lydia, and that wasn’t a think about it that for me, and ideally suited day 830 to 2:30, somewhat than 11 until six or one thing like that. And so you’ll determine what that appears like for you. And you’ll for those who maintain saying to your self, I’m going to begin at 8:30am, and it’s 9am.

And also you haven’t began your day, as an alternative of making an attempt to love push towards that resistance to get began at 830 to simply give your self permission to begin, for instance, at 930. After which you’ll be able to get pleasure from your complete morning, not feeling responsible or behind. However to simply know, when 930 comes, I do know precisely like my mind is aware of precisely what it must do at present. And it’s inside its energy to do this. And there’s a light-weight on the finish of the tunnel, and I’ve received a lunch break. And it’s prefer it’s all set as much as work in my favor.

And I can simply get pleasure from my morning or perhaps you simply wish to work within the evenings, no matter it’s for you that it is possible for you to to create a transparent begin and a transparent finish to your day and to provide your self the prospect to really feel completed. And which is simply going to make you’re feeling extra productive and be extra productive. While you really feel completed. While you really feel such as you’ve received the whole lot achieved that you simply wanted to do this goes to breed productiveness. And so we wish to try this. And it’s simply so laborious to do this if you’re working from a to do listing.

It’s simply virtually not possible to overachieve in your day, and never within the sense that I used to be speaking about earlier than making an attempt to capitalize in your productiveness. We don’t wish to try this once we’re capitalizing on productiveness. We’re additional solidifying the self picture that we’re not somebody who’s productive and once we consider we’re not somebody who’s productive, we have now to make use of willpower motivation to be productive. And that is once we’re working in spurts of motivation and it doesn’t final, we as an alternative wish to be creating this self picture that after all, it’s regular for me to have a productive day. It’s so regular.

And so I don’t must capitalize on this as a result of it’s regular for me. So I’m simply going to wrap up, I’m going to get achieved early. And my mind is aware of if we determine a greater faster means to do that. We’ll have an early mark at present. After which I can belief that particularly as a result of my mind has rested in the case of my subsequent interval of labor, I can be targeted and get shit achieved. So the fifth cause I wish to point out is that if you end up working from a to do listing, you aren’t creating self belief, which you could be productive. So I’ve sort of simply talked about this, really.

However that is I simply wish to underline it, for those who’re working in spurts of motivation for those who’re stopping and beginning, and in case you are continuously feeling like properly, I don’t know after I’ll be productive once more, as a result of I’ve an actual procrastination downside. It’s a planning downside. However I’ve an actual procrastination downside. So I simply want to verify I take advantage of this inspiration, then it’s only a planning downside. And that’s partly attributable to you working from to do lists, which goes to get your perfectionist mindset working towards you from the get goes. So we wish to be doing energy planning.

That is what I educate in depth inside PGSD. It’s the place you’re going to get the assist the place you’re going to get the total instruments and the whole lot that it’s essential know the neighborhood.

All of the issues PGSD personal podcast to have you ever take heed to the teaching name replays on the go like, it’s actually about going past mental data about what clear relaxation is like this, for those who’re considering like, this sounds good, I would like extra clear relaxation, I wish to invite you in. However let’s discuss simply rapidly recapping the three steps of energy planning and planning correctly. So that’s your energy hour, your little tweaks and your weekly evaluate.

So in your energy hour, you’re placing your needle shifting duties into your digital calendar. And your needle shifting duties are primarily based on what your development purpose is, then we have now little tweaks. So all through the week, you make little changes to your calendar. And I wish to put slightly checkmark emoji subsequent to issues as I am going via, I get that satisfaction of ticking off a to do listing. And it’s it’s much more satisfying, as a result of to my coloration coded calendar.

And I simply get to the top of the week after I’m doing my weekly evaluate. And I simply see all these texts as a result of there’s no crosses. Prefer it’s all textual content as a result of I’ve simply up to date it to mirror what really received achieved after which put a tick subsequent to it, no matter no matter it was, even when it’s a activity that took me an hour greater than I had deliberate, I nonetheless have a tick subsequent to it. So it’s gonna assist your mind in that sense, like our mind loves accumulation, and needs to see all of those checkmarks.

So it actually helps with that, you’ll nonetheless get the satisfaction of the checkmark if you end up energy planning. And we wish to have your little tweaks. You’re continuously updating your calendar so that you simply by no means fall behind on it. And as I discussed, you’ve gotten issues like buffer time in your calendar, with the intention to drag and drop issues and alter them round. Because of this we use a digital calendar in addition to against a paper planner.

Paper planners are stunning, and I like the thought of them. However it’s actually laborious, particularly for those who’re a perfectionist and also you don’t like issues wanting messy, that you really want to have the ability to change your plans and be actually particular and detailed about issues which frequently in paper planner, there’s not sufficient house to be as particular as it’s essential or to love reject the order of duties or to slip one thing to the following day or drop it into the following week, issues like that.

So we wish to be working out of your digital calendar, making these little changes so that you simply’re by no means falling behind. After which in the case of your weekly evaluate, that’s if you end up reflecting on the week you’re looking at what you’ve received to perform your aha moments, your realizations, what isn’t working, what have you ever been avoiding what your masts are like all of that sort of factor.

And you’re then particularly if you end up making the three month dedication to energy planning and you’re training energy planning, I’m actually seeing it as a apply that over time particularly like when you get to be greater than 4 weeks into it, you’ll start to see patterns and within the subsequent episode I’m going to be speaking about among the patterns to look out for and plan out your clear relaxation and what that’s going to appear to be for you.

So undoubtedly tune in to the following episode if you wish to hear extra about that. However your weekly evaluate is an important a part of planning correctly when we have now our perfectionism handbrake on. We don’t like to judge as a result of we might be so merciless to ourselves and disgrace ourselves so badly that we actually simply sort of scared to have a look at what the week was like in case we discover out that it was a complete shitshow.

And the attractive factor that at all times occurred and I like seeing this. So in PGSD, we have now the persistence log part within the PGSD discussion board, which is the place you’ll be able to submit your, your weekly evaluate and your updates and the highs and the lows and the whole lot in between. And so many instances every entry within the persistence log will say, I actually don’t wish to be doing this Weekly Overview, however I’m going to do it anyway. And I simply don’t really feel like I get something achieved.

However I’m simply going to belief it and do it. After which by the top of it, they’re like, Okay, I understand I really had an unimaginable week. And listed here are my classes from the week and I’m feeling so empowered for subsequent week. And it’s simply the ability of getting an opportunity to mirror and it actually helps us to develop that development mindset and to be prepared to judge with out having to imply one thing about ourselves if we see one thing that we don’t like or that we all know higher than to be doing. In order that’s slightly overview once more, of energy planning plan correctly as a perfectionist clear relaxation is an important a part of planning correctly.

If you happen to aren’t placing clear relaxation in your calendar, you aren’t planning correctly so anyway, I’m gonna wrap this episode up. The subsequent one goes to be on ideas that will help you plan out your clear relaxation, how a lot you ought to be getting. Within the episode after that we’re going to be sharing a training name that was inside PGSD that’s going that will help you perceive what counts as clear relaxation and what doesn’t. I eat this clear relaxation must really feel recharging and do must really feel energized after it for to counts that have to be utterly freed from guilt for it to rely like that sort of factor. And the fifth episode on this collection I’m going to speak about what I stand up to after I’m taking clear relaxation and the way my clear relaxation apply has advanced.

Outro

So I hope you’ve gotten discovered this episode useful. I do know that I’ve shared loads on this episode. Know that if you wish to be taught all of the steps of how planning you wish to set your development purpose you wish to be planning correctly getting the clear relaxation PGSD is the perfect place to do this.

So I wish to invite you in when the doorways open they are going to be open at 6am New York time on the 4th of April and they’ll shut at 11:59pm New York time on the eleventh of April 2025. samlaurabrown.com/pgsd is the place you’ll be able to go to seek out out extra data to hitch the waitlist and when the doorways open to enroll and be part of us. So I hope you’re having a gorgeous day and I’ll discuss to you within the subsequent episode.