That is an episode I’ve referenced numerous occasions because it was first printed. It shares such an essential lesson for all entrepreneurs, particularly those that have been getting in their very own approach, that I needed to share it once more.
On this episode I’m serving to you discover the areas in your corporation the place you’re feeling like you’ve gotten your palms tied behind your again. These are the areas in your corporation the place you’ve gotten a deep need to take motion however aren’t letting your self – both due to a previous choice you made, a rule you unconsciously adopted or an expectation you’re inserting on your self.
Then I’m strolling you thru tips on how to untie your palms from behind your again, replace your selections and let your self freely create.
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Hello and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Undertaking. A podcast stuffed with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My title is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake, to allow them to get out of their very own approach and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the Perfectionists Getting Shit Accomplished group teaching program, which is in any other case generally known as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that can assist you with your corporation, you possibly can observe me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.
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In the present day I’ve a better of the podcast episode for you. So at this level, there are loads of episodes on this podcast, and I wish to ensure that the very best episodes don’t get misplaced within the archives. So at the moment I’m sharing with you an episode that’s properly liked and in addition one which I’m always referring to and linking individuals to, and I wish to be sure to can hearken to it as properly if you happen to haven’t already. So with out additional ado, let’s get into the episode.
Sam Laura Brown
In the present day I wish to discuss to you about letting your self create belief in your self to be seen, and untying your palms from behind your again. And I’m simply, I’ve obtained no notes. I’m simply speaking to you from the guts, from sharing what I’ve been desirous about and dealing on and serving to shoppers with inside perfectionist getting shit finished. It is a lot of the work that we do in this system, and actually simply bringing a couple of issues collectively. And I hope that listening to this at the moment goes to be useful for you, particularly if you happen to’ve simply been in a interval the place you’ve gotten felt frozen. You felt scared of constructing errors or making a mistake once more, fearful of failing or failing once more, and simply scared to truly make selections and transfer your self ahead, since you don’t wish to do your self incorrect. You wish to do proper by your self. And that makes you freeze and really feel scared and cease taking motion or over motion and attempt to do all of the issues and be tremendous rushed about it, and I can simply, I’ve been in that deeply, and I’m popping out on the opposite aspect of that, and I simply wish to share one thing I’ve been desirous about because it pertains to these issues.
So I’ll begin with untying your palms from behind your again. So what I’ve skilled, and that is simply an analogy I’ve had with myself as a approach to consider it and simply discover what’s going on. And I would like you to consider this for you is, the place do you’re feeling like in your corporation, you’ve gotten your palms tied behind your again? IE, you recognize what you wish to do, you’re feeling compelled to do it, however you received’t let your self do it. Or you recognize that it’s a choice that must be made, despite the fact that you don’t wish to make it, however you’re not letting your self make it. Primarily, it’s you stopping your self from doing one thing, whether or not it’s a joyful factor, a tough factor, a tedious factor, however you’ve gotten arrange for your self parameters, guidelines, constraints which are really making it really feel like you possibly can’t do one thing that does really feel crucial to you and does really feel prefer it issues.
I’ve had this present up in a number of alternative ways. And the extra that I could be like, Oh, I really feel like proper now I’ve my palms tied behind my again in a sure approach. It actually helps me to permit myself to untie my palms, and to only see that there’s energy in having constraints and all of that type of factor. Additionally, there may be energy in letting your self select or replace your choice, in letting your self transfer ahead and make selections and check out issues. And I do know that when I’ve been in durations of feeling like I’m failing and I don’t know what I’m doing, significantly final 12 months 2023 I spent, I’d say, loads of the 12 months. Nicely, to start with, I had the twins in February, and was simply within the thick of postpartum, very sleep disadvantaged, huge identification disaster, navigating, going from a mum of 1 to a mum of three and simply being in the identical residence with the identical garments and all the identical issues, and but feeling fully totally different and simply navigating that transition, which I really feel like and have simply turned 18 months a pair weeks in the past, I really feel like I’ve actually discovered myself and never like my previous self, however my new self, and I really feel very grounded in that I’m nonetheless reinventing myself and having all of it come collectively, however I really feel like I’ve actually popped out on the opposite aspect of that, so to talk, and reworked.
And now my life, in some methods, is catching as much as that. However anyway, I’ve within the final 12 months, or in 2023 significantly, and to start with, I’d say, of this 12 months, however significantly 2023 simply feeling like I’m failing. I ought to be doing higher. I ought to be a greater chief. And I discussed loads of this in a latest episode I did on classes from the final 18 months. I feel it’s perhaps like six episodes in the past at this level, if you wish to hear extra about that, and beginning a brand new chapter, which I positively really feel like that was the beginning of a brand new chapter. I referred to as it in, and I’m in that new chapter, however I felt like I had arrange sure constraints for myself that didn’t permit me to create.
So a type of was doing our pgsd launches quarterly, and having to do it that approach, and that was how I selected to do it in 2022 and I like doing that. We’re really returning to doing that. However when these launches, we weren’t reaching the variety of signups that we wanted to to be worthwhile as a enterprise that. However there have been sure selections that wanted to be made as properly, when it comes to bills and issues like that, that I wasn’t letting myself make as a result of I used to be telling myself I ought to be capable of determine this out, and in addition, I didn’t let myself earn a living in different methods or change the plans. I simply stored telling myself I ought to be capable of determine this out and I ought to be a greater chief, and I shouldn’t spend my time creating content material and even like teaching as a lot I ought to be desirous about being a CEO and a frontrunner and simply actually going into the entrepreneur aspect, which is essential, however not letting myself be within the coach aspect and within the creating and like what I’m doing proper now, simply sharing what’s prime of thoughts for me and trusting that’s going to be so useful for you the day that you just resolve to hearken to this episode, whether or not it’s the day it’s launched, or whether or not it’s two years after that, the day you’re feeling referred to as by the title to hit play. This would be the precise message that you have to hear.
So I simply in my thoughts, had arrange this constraint that I shouldn’t principally, I shouldn’t be doing the issues that I do finest, and people issues had been additionally crucial issues for the expansion of the enterprise as properly, however I shouldn’t be doing them. And if we aren’t like, if we aren’t reaching our objectives that now we have, then I ought to simply be capable of determine it out, and we should always simply be capable of do it subsequent time, versus having the ability to be like, Okay, I can really select to do a unique PGSD launch or do one on one teaching, or one thing like, I can permit myself to supply one thing totally different. I can permit myself to vary the time-frame. I can permit myself to make selections about my group and totally different bills that now we have and the way I’m working and the duties that I’m specializing in. I simply was in my thoughts very very similar to I’ve to do. I’ve to be the CEO. I’ve to be doing larger issues and higher issues and figuring this out. And I ought to determine it out.
And I do know if you happen to’re the type of individual I assist, you possibly can relate to these thought patterns of I ought to simply be capable of determine it out, after which not permitting your self to untie your palms from behind your again and determine it out. And I’ve created and rebuilt, or constructed a lot self belief with myself by permitting myself to make selections that had been wanted to be made, permitting myself to vary plans that wanted to be modified, permitting myself to only actually it’s like, in the end moving into being the CEO, which that’s a part of it. However after I was on this perfectionist mindset about it, of like, there’s this proper approach to do it, and I ought to simply be capable of determine the proper approach, so I’m not going to let myself have some other possibility, as a result of that is how I ought to be capable of do it, and if I can’t, I’m not adequate, and so I must show myself to myself, and simply all of that that I actually simply had this expertise of getting the palms or my palms tied behind my again, and feeling so pissed off by that, as a result of I used to be the one tying my head behind my again, and I wished to have them untied.
And I really feel prefer it’s from this very protecting place that we do it. We’ve got good intentions. Our mind does. It doesn’t need us to be unsafe, to be harmed, to be in disgrace, to be killed and lifeless and all of that. Like, our mind is wired for survival, and significantly, and I wish to point out the non-public life facet, as a result of I’ve coached loads of PGSDer and this as properly, once you had been having a change of some type, some type of life transition or uncertainty in your private life, once we’re on this mindset of like I ought to be capable of function the identical in my enterprise, as if that wasn’t occurring. Doesn’t make sense to suppose that approach, and but our brains do. But additionally to only know and spot that if you’re going via a interval of larger ranges of uncertainty, newness, unfamiliarity, even when it’s actually optimistic change, such as you’ve moved nation since you wish to, and also you’ve purchased a home since you wish to, or you’ve gotten a brand new relationship and also you wish to do this, our mind nonetheless sees that as uncertainty unsafe and we might die.
So if you happen to had been navigating durations of uncertainty in your private life, like I used to be then, it is sensible that our brains need increased levels of certainty in our enterprise, as a result of if you consider your capability that you’ve for uncertainty, and that is one thing like in pgsd you might be engaged on is growing your capability for uncertainty and your relationship with uncertainty, with the intention to navigate increased ranges of uncertainty in your corporation and have them not freak you out or freeze you, and in addition in your private life too, since you are additionally a human in addition to an entrepreneur. So when you’ve gotten a sure capability for uncertainty, then it’s like if now we have excessive ranges someplace, we have to decrease the uncertainty someplace else, and we’ll then attempt to get all the things proper. By no means make a mistake, do what’s assured, as a result of that creates the phantasm of certainty, despite the fact that, via my expertise, when I’m so targeted on attempting to create certainty, I really stopped doing the issues that basically create essentially the most quantity of certainty, which is trusting myself, permitting myself to create, letting myself be seen, letting myself be seen, letting myself be recognized.
My mind is like, No, we are able to’t do this. We’ve got to observe formulation and get it proper. And that really creates extra uncertainty, in the end, as a result of I’m not in a position to produce on the identical degree create the identical outcomes, and my relationship with myself is certainly not as linked and supportive when that’s taking place. So one thing to note as properly on this, and I really coach one among our PGSDers on this the opposite day, like when your self picture shouldn’t be in alignment with having a big capability for uncertainty, you would possibly really be capable of deal with loads of uncertainty. You would possibly really even take pleasure in uncertainty. And I find it irresistible as a result of uncertainty creates chance. My mind can also be like, yeah, yeah, however we would like certainty, however intellectually no less than, I like uncertainty due to the likelihood that creates.
However what occurred is that this individual really has a big, excessive, no matter capability for uncertainty, however her self picture was that she is somebody who doesn’t like uncertainty and doesn’t do properly in uncertainty. I used to be like, cling on, is that really true? Is that really true which you could’t deal with uncertainty, that you just don’t like uncertainty, as a result of the best way that she stated it was identical to, it’s a reality, like, the sky is blue, I can’t deal with uncertainty. And loads of occasions we just like the perfectionism is us having this worry of not having sufficient capability to deal with a unfavourable end result, to deal with failure, however in the end, it may be success as properly that we’re scared about dealing with as a result of we’re unsure of our capability and the flexibility of our future self to deal with uncertainty, to deal with rejection, to deal with disgrace, to deal with abandonment, to deal with no matter we worry would possibly come.
And loads of occasions it’s so attention-grabbing. I simply I’m so grateful as a coach that I get to witness this the variety of PGSDers I’ve coached who it’s clear have such ranges of capability and functionality, however it’s merely their self picture round what they’ll deal with that isn’t matching up. And subsequently they’ve all this capability to make use of however they’re not utilizing it just because they imagine they’re not the person who has it, despite the fact that they do actually have it, and it’s very apparent to anybody on the skin that they do do rather well in uncertainty, that they’ll deal with loads of it, that they’ll make selections, that they’ll belief themselves. And but, when our self picture and self idea is I’m somebody who makes errors and fails and I can’t be trusted, and subsequently I must do all the things proper, as a result of that’s the one approach that something might work. I must devour loads of info as a result of I don’t know sufficient, and another person is aware of higher than me.
After we’re in that type of perfectionist mindset and our self picture isn’t in alignment with the capability and functionality that we have already got, we find yourself creating this expertise the place our palms are tied behind our again, as a result of we don’t see ourselves as an individual who can have these palms untied and deal with it, or as an individual who can untie our palms. And I hope that analogy is making sense, however I simply seen that, for instance, like with the pgsd launches, and being like, No, now we have to do a quarterly launch, and that is how we do it. I actually then created loads of stress and ideas of monetary insecurity for myself, and type of like, backed myself right into a nook that I didn’t must be backed into and since it was finished in nearly like such an excessive approach in my head that I froze, that I discovered it so arduous to truly make selections.
And like, if you happen to checked out me from the skin, like I used to be nonetheless working my work days, I even labored extra work days. Throughout that point, like I used to be busy, so busy in my mind particularly. However I wouldn’t let myself change a couple of circumstances that wanted to be modified so as to have the ability to create the outcome that I wished to create. I used to be simply so set on I ought to be a greater chief. So our group wants to remain the identical. I simply want to determine my shit. I ought to be capable of determine tips on how to have profitable launches once more, and so now we have to maintain comparable launch dates, and I ought to simply be capable of determine it out. Versus, oh, I can really see that like me being whether or not or not I’m chief or not, isn’t the one consider how we function as a group and the outcomes that we’re creating and what’s occurring or that the launch dates and having to stay to this launch plan that I made up. It’s not like anybody even informed me, like you must do it this manner.
I made a decision in 2022 I wish to do a quarterly launch as a result of I simply wish to have a container for gross sales, and having the interval the place we’re constructing as much as it, after which now we have that interval I can debrief and consider after which do it once more. And I liked doing it that approach, and I nonetheless do. I like having these parameters. However in 2023 I had a unique thought sample behind it, and it was, it ought to work. I ought to be capable of determine it out. And I simply didn’t let myself change the issues that wanted to be modified. I didn’t let myself replace my selections. I didn’t let myself transfer ahead. I didn’t let myself threat one other mistake, so to talk, particularly with the launches, once we had in 2023 for every launch we did. We had much less signups for each.
And as an alternative of and it’s so attention-grabbing to have a look at, and I wished to say about this as a result of final 12 months, after I did a debrief concerning the launches, or one among them particularly, I used to be saying, just like the launch is, like now we have a adequate launch mannequin, which we do, and we simply want extra leads. And what I’ve discovered deeply via my mastermind, and simply simply actually having the ability to see this via teaching PGSDers and so many different issues, is, after all, we all the time as a enterprise wish to welcome in new individuals to our world. However how are you treating the individuals at the moment in your world? Are you displaying up for them? Are you permitting your self to be seen? Are you serving? Are you serving to? Are you permitting your self to strive issues and to probably make errors and to fail and to strive once more and to do all of that, regardless of you probably have a enterprise mannequin that’s like mine or fully totally different, that what I do know to be true now so deeply is that displaying up for even you probably have like 300 followers in your Instagram account, I’m like, Okay, I do know that the individuals right here aren’t gonna purchase or aren’t my individuals.
So I would like to search out new individuals. After we are in that thought sample, we’re not in a spot to even name in new individuals. We aren’t within the vitality of service, and in addition when it comes to our personal relationship with ourself and our personal willingness to be seen and to be seen and to point out up and to do issues, it’s actually this mindset of, I like this type of transactional mindset as properly, when it comes to, like, what can they provide to me? And like, I don’t wish to present up for the people who find themselves at the moment in my world, and since there aren’t sufficient of them, and so I would like extra individuals like they’re not adequate, primarily, is what we’re desirous about our personal individuals. And it’s so painful as a coach to say that, but in addition I wish to say that as a result of it’s so human for our mind to be pondering that approach and to be as a enterprise proprietor, attempting to determine the entrepreneurial aspect of the enterprise and getting cash and all of that that it’s straightforward at occasions, to concentrate on that slightly an excessive amount of, and the service aspect of the enterprise slightly too little.
And that’s regular, and I wish to discuss it as a result of I do know, like there’s no entrepreneur I do know that hasn’t skilled that many occasions, however it’s not one thing that lots of people discuss, as a result of it sounds not nice to say there are typically I’m pondering extra concerning the success of my enterprise than your personal success, and in addition deeply in each second I’m deeply believing in you in our PGSDers, and what’s potential, to the purpose that I might cry when I’m desirous about that and linked to it, and typically my mind is like, hey, however now we have to consider ourselves. We’ve got to ensure we’re okay, and we’ve obtained to determine this out. And likewise, we wish to have a enterprise and all of this. So I simply wished to say that as a result of if you happen to discovered your self pondering a bit an excessive amount of on the entrepreneur aspect, or a bit an excessive amount of on the service aspect of your corporation, and never desirous about whether or not it’s industrial or not, it actually is that this lovely combine that we wish to discover.
And I’m nonetheless navigating that, as all entrepreneurs are, I like desirous about it prefer it’s not a matter of, okay, how do I stability that? After which I discover the proper stability, and that’s what I’m all the time in ceaselessly. It’s extra this, like navigating it and slightly bit an excessive amount of on the entrepreneur aspect, after which slightly an excessive amount of on the coach aspect, after which slightly an excessive amount of on the entrepreneur aspect. And like, it balances out, however going a bit too far a method, after which a bit too far the opposite approach is tips on how to discover the candy spot and tips on how to know, like I do know what that candy spot appears like in my physique. It appears like what I’m doing proper now, the place I’m desirous about my enterprise, and I’m pondering deeply about you, and I’m displaying up and I’m sharing, and I’m letting myself be seen. And I’m desirous about additionally those that wish to be in pgsd, who wish to do that work. I’m desirous about welcoming you in, tips on how to welcome you in and be sure to perceive what’s on the road if you happen to don’t get out of your personal approach in your corporation.
So I’m desirous about all of that, and holding all of that, however not been on this mindset of, I must say it, proper? I must have this method of like, this week I say this, this factor on the podcast, after which this week I say that factor. And each time I’m in that mindset and everybody’s totally different, you bought to have a look at the ideas behind the actions and the emotions. However for me, and I’ve talked about this earlier than, each time I’m in that mindset of like, I must have a content material method, and I would like to determine, like, Okay, on this present day, it’s a testimonial that I share, and on this present day it’s, you recognize, like, type of like a pillars method to social media, that despite the fact that I can create unbelievable content material with that, and I may nonetheless. Make some huge cash doing that, and welcome in loads of PGSDers and assist lots of people with that. I do know what feels truest and most magnetic for me as a creator is doing what I’m doing proper now, which is, hey, that is prime of thoughts for me. I’m simply gonna share about it and belief myself to talk about it.
And despite the fact that in my mind, it appears like a giant jumble I’m trusting. And I do know this from listening again, it appears like a giant jumble in my mind as a result of there are like, 20 tabs open of issues I’d like to say to you, and I do know on the opposite finish, it does make sense I’d not be capable of have a podcast with practically 3 million downloads. We’re about to hit it with out that being the case, so I can belief myself, despite the fact that my expertise within the second of creation isn’t of full readability and isn’t of full confidence, so to talk, I can belief the sensation in my physique that I’ve, that that is one thing value doing, that that is essential, that that is significant, and I do know it simply requires an additional degree of vulnerability to permit myself to constantly present up on this approach, and that’s the work that I’m doing. And I simply really feel like with Instagram, for instance, I talked about this a bit on the 2 most up-to-date pgsd calls about my course of with it and what I’m desirous about.
And I simply really feel like with Instagram, I’ve had my palms tied behind my again, even with the podcast, after I’m being like, I would like to speak about this sure matter after which this one which I really feel like I don’t get to share the very best of what I’ve to supply, which is me being like. This matter feels actually essential and urgent, and I would like to speak about it with you at the moment, and with Instagram I and I used to be desirous about this morning as properly, as a result of I used to share so much on tales and simply sharing, like, right here’s what I’m as much as. Right here’s type of like, what my day seems to be like, right here’s what’s up of mine, for me. And I then determined I didn’t wish to do this anymore. And there are specific components that I wish to stand by, like, I don’t wish to present loads of my children on social media. That’s simply not one thing that I’m eager to do personally and have my content material be round my children. Additionally, I do nonetheless wish to present me on there, and since in my mind, the thought had been I don’t wish to should movie each second.
I don’t wish to have to point out up each day on social media, and so I can’t do it in any respect, and I wish to determine tips on how to not have the enterprise depend on me being on social media and me doing my tales that I feel after I do them totally and let myself be seen, I feel they’re good for the individual in pgsd is ideal for and that they’re very highly effective for the enterprise, and really highly effective for serving to present PGSDers and future PGSDers create ends in their enterprise. However I’ve had my palms tied behind my again on my own due to this thought error about having to both doc all the things, after which, like, if I’m going for a stroll, I’m like, Oh, ought to I fill myself a little bit of this stroll? And by the best way, that’s for like, two seconds, like, or 30 seconds, or regardless of the clip can be, however, and it’s actually only a matter of discovering methods that assist it and permitting myself to unravel for that.
However after I’ve been in that every one or nothing perfectionist mindset about it, like I’m both sharing all the things and each second, I’ve to consider, like, May this be content material, or I’m not sharing all of it, then I haven’t allowed myself to truly simply present up. And likewise, social media, I don’t imagine is crucial for enterprise, within the sense that there are such a lot of methods you possibly can construct a profitable enterprise. Social media, you don’t should be there, however I do wish to be there. And the drama I’ve had through the years with it’s I wish to be there, however I received’t let myself be there totally. And that causes drama as a result of my palms really feel like they’re tied behind my again, however I’m like, however I don’t wish to go away. As a result of I do wish to be right here, however I’m not going to let myself really be right here, as a result of that’s scary to my mind additionally, loads of it’s it feels really easy to do this that my mind’s like, no, no. We should complicate this. We should determine this good content material plan and technique and ensure it really works and say the proper issues, versus like I might simply present up and share and know that my deep perception in pgsd, my deep perception in you, my deep perception in Me, will name in the proper individuals to pgsd that we may help get out of their very own approach.
We will educate them energy planning and self belief and aligned advertising and all of the unbelievable issues that you just study in pgsd and the outcomes that you just get. It’s lifetime entry. It’s superb. So I can belief myself to create prime of thoughts, to share what’s occurring, to speak about my enterprise. I like the thought too, and I do know that if you happen to’re my individual, you’ll deeply agree with this. There’s nothing I might share about my enterprise that for my finest shopper, for the individual I’m finest positioned. To assist. There’s nothing I might share that may flip you away. The extra I share, the extra actual I’m, the extra when it comes to like I wish to do an episode like sharing all of the numbers and all of the various things and that I hadn’t let myself do this after I wasn’t feeling as profitable. And I imply, I shared my numbers approach earlier than I used to be ever feeling profitable, however it was nearly like as soon as, like in 2022 we made 600 as a enterprise had 300,000 revenue.
After which it’s nearly like at that time, my mind was like, Okay, that is the brand new naked minimal. That is the brand new like baseline. If it’s something lower than that, you might be severely failing. And so final 12 months, once we made 320,000 after which we had a $150,000 loss as a enterprise. So our bills had been 320 plus 150 so 470,000 and loads of that being within the group aspect of the enterprise, that I simply felt like I had my palms tied behind my again on my own, of like I can’t share the numbers anymore, and I like sharing the numbers. I like this being a spot the place you possibly can come to listen to what it’s really prefer to be an actual individual constructing a enterprise. I like that a lot. And even final week, I used to be like, I wish to begin a podcast. Possibly I’ll do that sooner or later, however I wish to begin a podcast the place it’s identical to a weekly behind the scenes replace of my enterprise.
However that concept, I can see, is coming from me, not really simply letting myself share that as I used to on this podcast. Like no, I’ve to share no matter totally different subjects and no matter various things. It’s not even like I’ve anybody particular telling me something like that, my mind is simply eager to create certainty after what appears like making some large errors, which I’d all the time a part of entrepreneurship, however they’re nonetheless painful, and having some large failures and simply feeling like I knew what I used to be doing and I didn’t know what I used to be doing, and now I’ve returned to I do know what I’m doing, and I’m effective with feeling unsure, and I can deal with that. I’ve the capability for that. I even have a lot to study, like I haven’t made it in the very best sense, like not denying my very own success, however like I’m profitable, and there are nonetheless so many talent units that I’m studying. There are such a lot of talent units inside entrepreneurship.
It’s not identical to, are you good at operating a enterprise or not? There’s finance, there’s HR, there’s management, there’s advertising, there’s gross sales, there’s operations, there’s so many various aspects, plus no matter talent set you’ve gotten. So for me, for teaching, there’s my talent as a coach, having the ability to maintain area for somebody and like be within the teaching to have the ability to take what I’ve coached on on the a whole lot of teaching calls and distill that down right into a course of so that somebody who can simply watch a couple of 15 minute movies from me, can get the transformation that’s a part of my talent set as a coach. There are such a lot of talent units inside teaching, and for you, no matter it’s that you just do, whether or not you’re a photographer or a naturopath or anything, plus a talent set of entrepreneurship.
And in my mind, it was type of like I’ve made it I figured it out, and now it’s simply ought to be extra of that, and I’ve simply been like, Oh no, that’s I’m so glad that I obtained the lesson that that’s not the way it works, and that I can quote you now from such a deep place of understanding that and serving to you if you find yourself in a failure or in a mistake or a perceived failure or a perceived mistake, that you’ll be able to regulate your nervous system, which I’ve been doing loads of, construct that self belief, untie your palms from behind your again by updating selections or making arduous selections by altering circumstances, if you have to to permit your self to point out up and be seen and do what you do, and I simply really feel prefer it’s such essential work.
And I simply the variety of individuals I’ve talked to not too long ago as properly who both wish to begin a enterprise however haven’t but, as a result of they haven’t discovered the proper area of interest or the proper approach to do it, or no matter, or they’re of their enterprise and so they’ve gotten began and these perfectionist thought patterns are making them cease themselves. I simply I do know the ache of stopping your self and having your palms tied behind your again, and I do know the facility and the great thing about what the world is like when you’ve gotten your palms untied from behind your again, and what you possibly can create, and that’s what I’m right here to do, and what I’m right here to unlock for you.
So with that stated, I simply wish to provide you with permission if you happen to’ve been needing it to vary any selections or circumstances. Replace any concepts you’ve gotten that have you ever feeling like your palms are tied behind your again that, oh, I can’t do that. And even if you happen to simply wish to write a listing of listed here are the issues I can’t do in my enterprise, however I’d really like to do. Or listed here are the issues I want I might do. Or listed here are the issues that not really feel aligned with me, however I really feel like I ought to do them and trusting your self with what comes up. So one thing that was actually attention-grabbing for me, and has been one thing that I’ve been desirous about so much, additionally teaching on so much as properly, is with regards to voices in your mind about, like, worry and doubt and like, Ought to we do that? Or I don’t suppose this may work. What I’ve actually simply considered previously is actually creating perception of it may work, and all of this type of factor, which is essential.
And there’s positively a time and a spot for that, 100% and in addition these days, what I’ve been doing is when my mind affords me one thing like, I don’t suppose this may work. So like my mind was saying that yesterday, for instance, it says it many days. My mind was saying that yesterday, that this received’t work. And I used to be desirous about my purpose for 1,000,000 {dollars} on this monetary 12 months. You may’t inform by the accent I’m Australian. I’m in Australia. So our monetary 12 months runs from first of July to 30 June. And my purpose, our purpose, as a enterprise for that 12 months, is 1,000,000 Australian {dollars}. The like, after I was desirous about it, the doubt that I had of like, this plan I’ve isn’t going to work. As an alternative of being like, no, it may work. It might probably work.
And type of like hyping myself up, I used to be like, hmm, okay, does my mind or my physique know one thing about this that I must know? Like, is there some knowledge to that? And never in a way of, okay, it’s not going to work, so I shouldn’t do it, that every one or nothing mindset is both going to work and I ought to do it, received’t work, and I shouldn’t do it, however Okay, what about this plan is feeling off. What about this plan isn’t in alignment with my million greenback purpose, as a result of my mind and my physique, I can like really feel that in my physique, my physique is telling me that this plan isn’t going to get the enterprise to 1,000,000 {dollars} in a 12 months, and inside the parameters that I’ve, so three work days per week, promoting it in a approach that’s in alignment with my values, which suggests promoting to those that I deeply imagine we may help, like simply the values now we have as a enterprise, our integrity, like being your phrase, is a vital worth, all of the that type of factor.
So it’s not identical to 1,000,000 {dollars} for the sake of it, or 1,000,000 {dollars} any which approach, however 1,000,000 {dollars} in my best work hours in alignment with our values, serving the individuals. In order that’s 200 PGSDers serving the those that we’re going to serve, calling them in, having that be aligned, and all of that. And so I used to be like, hey, mind, I hear you saying this isn’t going to work. Inform me extra about that. What particularly isn’t going to work. And after I dived into it, it was merely just like the plans now we have for pgsd launches and issues we’re doing with our electronic mail record and various things like that. It’s just like the plan when it comes to dates and like, logistics works. However what was off was my vitality and my desirous about it, that type of pondering I discussed, of like, what’s in it for me, and never wanting to point out up and be seen except it’s like, I’m simply eager to have security, primarily, eager to have, like, Okay, if we put up this type of factor on this present day and all of that, then we like, I might simply really feel like I’ve my palms tied behind my again, and it’s going to cease us from attending to that purpose.
And it’s not as a result of, oh, we’re doing the launch for pgsd beginning on, I feel it’s the 18th of October. Join the wait record. However we’re doing the launch PGSD on the 18th physician. It’s not like, okay, however that really wants to begin on a Friday as an alternative of a Wednesday or no matter. None of that. That doesn’t matter. It’s the vitality that I’m in. It’s what I’m believing about myself, about my enterprise, about my program, about you, about what’s potential, about my relationship with advertising and gross sales, about my relationship with cash as properly, like, it’s all of that, and I might simply really feel that my vitality was off. And that doesn’t imply like, Okay, now go away to a cave and get your self in good vitality after which come out once more. However for me, I know how.
And I’ve now been in enterprise for greater than 10 years, I know how to have myself be in that vitality is to only untie my palms from behind my again and do the factor. And in that case, that’s like this, me simply saying to myself, Oh, I simply wish to report an episode about untying your palms from behind your again, and I didn’t even plan to have that be a essential matter on this episode. It was simply trusting your self to create and be seen. And I’m simply going to belief myself to create and be seen with this episode and in 2022 for these listeners who’ve been round since then, I talked about, like with needle movers, that’s one thing we discuss determining what’s important to realize your objectives and what isn’t, as a result of our perfectionist brains love productive procrastination and simply being busy with issues that don’t matter.
So figuring out your needle movers is one thing you learn to do inside pgsd. I simply really created a brand new bonus that’s in pgsd, a needle mover masterclass with a needle mover matrix that can assist you. So if you happen to’re in pgsc, positively examine that out. Actually excited for that. However in 2022 I used to be saying that the like, I used to be spending loads of time on Instagram, sure, additionally scrolling and distracting myself, however I used to be spending loads of time creating, however it might simply take me one to 2 hours to create a put up. And also you wouldn’t realize it from the skin, like you possibly can see some individuals’s reels and issues like that. We like, oh my god, particularly trend creators, the place you’re like, oh my god, that may 100% take loads of time you want, in 10 totally different types outfits, like I noticed this one the opposite day, that this trend creator. I don’t even know who’s, however he was dressing up as totally different fonts, and had, like, styled an outfit for, like, Instances New Roman and like, all these various things. I used to be like, holy shit.
Like that could be a manufacturing piece to do this. However for these posts I used to be doing, it wasn’t like that. It was a easy graphic and a caption. And I used to be telling myself, like, that’s not a needle mover. I shouldn’t be spending time on Instagram. And that is one thing that got here up on this week’s PGSD name as properly. Like, making your self incorrect for doing the proper factor and being all or nothing in that sense, as an alternative of being like, Okay, this really is a very essential exercise for the enterprise. Additionally, like, not as a result of I’ve to be on Instagram, however as a creator and a coach, having interactions with individuals actually fuels me and attending to identical to, throw out my concepts and listen to what comes again. Like, that’s how I’ve been in a position to create loads of issues that I’ve created, as a result of somebody’s been like, Hey, are you able to discuss extra about this? Or lots of people, like, with energy planning, it was one thing that I didn’t even discuss so much for a very long time, as a result of I didn’t even suppose individuals would have an interest. After which I began speaking about on Instagram, and was like, Inform me extra. Like, okay, I didn’t understand everybody was so on this factor.
So with all that stated, I used to be within the all or nothing mindset about like, this factor both is useful or isn’t useful, and I ought to do it, or I shouldn’t versus that is actually useful. And the best way I’m going about it, I really feel like I might get a greater return on funding for my time, like I’m feeling like I’m overthinking it and attempting to good it and polish it, and I wish to be extra self trusting with my Instagram content material, however it’s nonetheless a useful factor for me to be doing, and even in phrases and that is going to be totally different for everybody. You may not even be on Instagram as a enterprise, that’s completely okay. Simply apply this to no matter is related for you. So for myself, when I’ve considered Instagram simply being like repurposing podcast episodes and emails, I can do this, and that’s nice. And there are occasions that I positively do this type of factor, and I repurpose all posts and issues like that. There’s so many choices, however what really is most fueling to my artistic course of is sharing my concepts and actually pondering nearly like particularly for somebody on Instagram and in addition sharing different stuff as properly, however simply permitting myself time to create immediately for Instagram.
And it’s not as a result of I ought to do it. And after I’m on this mindset of like, I’ve to do this type of put up and that type of put up, it’s not as highly effective as after I’m like, I’m simply gonna let myself share. I’m gonna let myself create, and I do rather well with having versatile construction. So when it’s identical to, okay, get up at the moment and put up one thing, it’s nearly like an excessive amount of of a clean canvas for my mind that I discover it actually difficult. I can coach myself on that and determine that out. However what has labored so properly for me, for the podcast and for emails as properly, is I do know I’ve determined. That’s why I do know, as a result of I’ve determined how typically we do a podcast episode and what the format is. And I do know like I’m not beginning with a clean slate, I do know that we do a podcast episode each week. Once more, I do know that as a result of I made a decision that.
So if you happen to really feel such as you don’t know what you’re doing, it’s simply since you haven’t determined what you’re doing. The understanding comes from deciding, and you must resolve as an alternative of anticipating to know earlier than you resolve. So I made a decision we do an episode every week. We used to do two episodes every week after I wished to create the next quantity, simply because my mind was like, Oh my God, if I do a weekly episode, they should be actually good. If I do two every week, it’s okay if it’s shit, as a result of that different one coming in three days or 4 days. So having that increased quantity actually helped me develop expertise like twice as quick in podcasting. It simply helped me launch that perfectionism handbrake, amount over high quality. Can actually assist with that, and lets you create prime quality. As a result of if we do such a low quantity of labor, it’s actually arduous to get sufficient follow to create prime quality, and it’d really feel good to us, however it’s not really going to be prime quality if we haven’t finished a lot follow at it.
So now we do one episode every week, and I do know what time that’s launched, and I’ve simply determined just like the format is like this. It’s chatty. I’m sharing what’s prime of thoughts for me, one thing that I both self coach on or coach a shopper on, and episodes like this I like essentially the most. I don’t have any notes. I’m simply speaking to you. And I additionally do love episodes with some notes to it, however trusting myself at the moment is that this an episode the place I wish to have a couple of notes or no notes, and I do know the realms of what I’m speaking about, perfectionism, enterprise productiveness, as a result of it has such a huge impact in your productiveness as a enterprise proprietor. In order that’s the realm, and my very own private improvement mindset, self teaching these subjects. In order that’s all determined, and that permits me a clean slate, however not too clean.
So when I’ve been like, okay, and I would like to determine, like, the subsequent 15 episodes, I’ll do one on self belief, after which I’ll do one on overthinking, after which I’ll do one on procrastination, and I’ll do one on no matter I can do this, and it might be actually useful for you. And likewise, I simply find yourself feeling like I’ve obtained my palms tied behind my again, and I’m now locked into saying issues that I don’t really feel compelled to share, as an alternative of trusting myself, that, like naturally, as I coach and self coach all of these subjects, there will probably be a second for every of these subjects the place I’ve a second that I’m like, I’ve to speak about this at the moment. Like I’m with this at the moment. I’m like, I’ve to speak about this.
And even this week, I simply wish to wrap up by this thought we are able to have of I’m going to do incorrect on my own, or I would make the identical mistake once more, and that worry and that like freezing that comes from that, or over actioning and simply being so busy and attempting to do all of the issues and get all of it good, and all simply polished and all simply good. That earlier this week, I used to be deciding concerning the podcast episode for subsequent week, and I used to be like, okay, I can really feel that I’ve some resistance to doing a better of the podcast episode the place I share. I’ve obtained practically 500 episodes the place I share an episode that I don’t wish to get misplaced within the archives, that I reference to individuals so much, and I wish to have it’s out there to everybody to pay attention. And I felt like I had this, simply this sense of like I can’t belief myself to do this, as a result of after I was doing that in 2023 it wasn’t from an important place.
And so it’s not whether or not doing that’s proper or incorrect or something like that, however what are the ideas behind it? And I might simply really feel prefer it was a bit off the best way I used to be desirous about it. So I did some self teaching on it, and I checked out, what are the ideas that I’m having about repurposing an episode? And it was type of this concept of like, oh, I ought to be doing new issues, and I ought to be creating once more. And it additionally appears like having my palms tied behind my again to not permit myself to do a better of the podcast episode and have that be shared. And loads of them are actually common, as a result of I’m sharing episodes which were actually common. Individuals haven’t listened for the reason that starting, individuals who have wish to pay attention once more.
And so it felt like having my palms tied behind my again to not share it, but in addition having to report felt like having my palms tied behind my again, like simply principally all these alternative ways. Felt like I’m having my palms tied behind my again. So I did some self teaching on it, and was like in a position to inform myself on the way it’s actually helpful for you as a listener. After which at the moment, after I was desirous about it, it was and what had me decide up my microphone and report this, despite the fact that I’ve already recorded an intro for that different episode, prefer it’s with our Podcast Producer, and that may be a future episode that we pull out. However I feel the explanation that I used to be feeling out of alignment, no matter you wish to say, with doing that, was merely due to the best way I used to be desirous about myself in relation to love, selecting to do this final 12 months and not likely understanding the place that thought sample was coming from.
However primarily, final 12 months, loads of the occasions that we did that, and it nonetheless is so useful to you, however I hope it’s useful to listen to me sharing about this as properly. In hindsight, I can see that I used to be pondering like, I shouldn’t be creating. I ought to be being a CEO. I ought to be main, I ought to be hiring, I ought to be specializing in the launches, and I shouldn’t be doing the podcast episodes, which is such a giant driver as properly of the enterprise, to say, with Instagram and electronic mail. However I used to be like, I shouldn’t do this. So I used to be making myself incorrect for doing the proper factor, and that makes it very arduous to have nice concepts and share them as properly. So I had much less concepts, as a result of I simply shoot them down earlier than they even turned aware. And in the event that they turned aware, I’d shoot them down, or I’d spend, like a complete day recording an episode, as a result of I needed to get the writiing good. And it was very irritating.
So after I was it this week, I used to be like, oh, it’s really simply trusting myself to report and report episodes like this. It’s trusting myself to do the very best of the podcast episode. If that feels aligned, it’s simply trusting myself. And I hadn’t been trusting myself as properly, as a result of after I made that call final 12 months, it was from a spot of not trusting myself. I can’t belief myself to create I can’t belief myself to spend time on that, as a result of I’m doing incorrect on my own. And simply be listening to if you find yourself making your self incorrect for doing the proper factor, which is the equal of getting your palms tied behind your again, like after I’m making myself incorrect for occurring tales, or I’m making myself incorrect for altering the pgst launch schedule, or I’m making myself incorrect for letting go of a group member when it not works for the group and the imaginative and prescient of the Enterprise or the profitability of the enterprise, and so let your self, untie your palms, replace your selections, transfer ahead.
And it’s all in trusting that you’ll assist your self regardless of the end result, and sure, additionally in having fun with the method too, however trusting your self to assist your self and get assist if you find yourself in failure, as a result of you can be once more if you find yourself in a mistake, as a result of you can be once more, as a result of that’s the nature of attempting and going for it and being all in. There isn’t any being all in with out errors. And so I really feel like I’ve had one foot in, one foot out, and I’ve simply been like pissed off at myself as properly due to that. And it’s simply, I feel, that perfectionist entitlement to of like wanting, like simply wanting a outcome, frustration coming from eager to have this outcome that you just’re not working to realize. And you recognize, deep down, you’re not working to realize it and doing the issues, even if you happen to’re going via the motions and, like, posting as a result of like posting constantly, like you recognize you’re not all in on it, you don’t have a burning need to do it. Doesn’t imply to burn your self out.
Doesn’t imply that you have to hustle, however this deep need and permitting your self to dwell that out that I simply really feel. Like I haven’t been all in due to the worry of constructing errors, and in addition in my mind, like associating the non-public life challenges I used to be going via, of like navigating such sleep deprivation and like a giant life transition that’s nearly like all twisted up with that as properly, and simply permitting myself to replace my selections to be like I really do wish to create on tales once more, particularly for tales. And I do wish to be on Instagram, particularly for Instagram. And I do wish to do episodes like this, and I belief and I’m so glad that I’ve allowed myself to do that previously, as a result of in 2022 once we had a really profitable 12 months within the enterprise, essentially the most profitable one to this point when it comes to income that I labored three days every week.
I had loads of weeks off to I used to be pregnant with the twins. I had a six month outdated at the start of that 12 months, and I obtained married that 12 months. We had simply moved into our home the December earlier than, and we had been simply getting settled in. We’d simply finished a giant renovation. I simply trusted myself, as a result of I allowed myself to. And previously, I’ve been like, as a result of I didn’t have a lot time, or no matter I had. And I feel it’s one thing to say for like, there was uncertainty in my private life, however I additionally had different issues. I had occurring in my private life. I used to be like, Okay, it’s enterprise. Let’s simply get to work.
So to not say that I haven’t had issues occurring as properly in my private life, however it simply within the final 18 months, as a result of for positive, I’ve, however when it turned an excessive amount of for my mind to deal with, simply due to my self picture round what I can deal with, that I wished to only be within the enterprise and be the place certainty and familiarity was, however then didn’t wish to make any errors or do something incorrect, and so I’ve simply been constructing that self belief, regulating my nervous system, untying my palms from behind my again, noticing the place I’ve that feeling in my enterprise, the place I really feel like I’m stopping myself from doing the proper factor simply due to some rule or choice I made, and never eager to make my previous self incorrect.
Updating a choice doesn’t make your previous self incorrect, and it’s such a reduction after I’ve decided that’s an replace of a previous choice, it has been such a reduction and has simply reconnected me with myself, as a result of then it permits me to really feel protected making selections at the moment, as a result of I do know my future self can replace them with out making me incorrect and coming again right here and being such as you shouldn’t have ever determined that. So discover that for your self, the place are your palms? Tie behind your again. What easy issues are you able to do to untie your palms? Belief your self once more and create I hope you’re having a wonderful day, and I’ll discuss to you within the subsequent episode.
Outro
In case you’re always getting in your personal approach in your corporation, perhaps you’re second guessing selections or struggling to even make them within the first place. Possibly you’re laying aside duties that basically matter, burning your self out since you’re working on a regular basis, or perhaps you’re holding your self again since you’re afraid of burnout or afraid of judgment. Or perhaps you’ve simply been telling your self, I simply want to determine my area of interest. I would like to determine my provide, my content material technique, after which I’ll be prepared to begin. If that’s you, then your drawback, and that is nice information, your drawback is simply perfectionism, and that’s one thing that’s actually easy to beat, particularly as soon as you understand how it’s displaying up for you, particularly with regards to constructing your corporation.
That is why I created the perfectionism quiz. So it’s fully free. It takes lower than three minutes, and also you’re going to get a personalised report displaying you which of them of the 5 perfectionist patterns is maintaining you caught, and also you don’t want to repair all 5, simply understanding your prime sample will present you the place to begin. So if you happen to’re able to observe via in your plans and truly construct the enterprise you recognize you’re able to. Go to samlaurabrown.com/quiz, and take the perfectionism quiz now.
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