After I began my enterprise, what I craved greater than something was the liberty to be the actual me, the liberty to specific myself and the liberty to develop.
On this episode, I’m sharing my ideas on freedom as an entrepreneur in addition to what enterprise seems like now as a mum of 4 youngsters below 5, making a full-time revenue on part-time hours and feeling secure to point out up as myself in each a part of my work.
I discuss leaving my accounting job with no proof issues would work, the self-belief that saved me going and the sort of braveness it takes to again your self earlier than you may have outcomes.
In case you’ve ever felt the pull to have a enterprise the place you will be the actual you, this episode will show you how to reconnect with what you’re actually constructing for. In case you’re a perfectionist and also you’re constructing a enterprise, you wish to take heed to this episode right this moment.
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Introduction
Hello and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Venture. A podcast filled with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My title is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake, to allow them to get out of their very own means and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out group teaching program, which is in any other case often called PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that can assist you with your small business, you’ll be able to comply with me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.
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Right this moment I’m sharing with you a recording that I really simply recorded on my iPhone, face the digital camera. I’d been doing a little journaling, and identical to fascinated by stuff, after which I simply felt like recording, so that’s what you’re going to take heed to. And the rationale I wished to share this specifically is as a result of I want somebody had stated this or clarify this to me in a means like this earlier on in my enterprise, as a result of being related with why you’re doing what you’re doing is one thing that’s so vital due to the the navigation required to construct a profitable, worthwhile enterprise that you just get pleasure from working in. There are obstacles. There are hurdles. So you’ll want to have a powerful cause why to maintain going. And so for me, when it got here to enterprise, I all the time thought the liberty to be location, unbiased, have management of my time, that was by no means why I began my enterprise, and I didn’t resonate with with that, with the necessity for freedom, till I found out what I’m sharing with you in right this moment’s episodes. I simply wished to share this in case it resonates with you and lets you join into a part of your why, a part of why you wish to have the enterprise and why you wish to have or not it’s a enterprise that you just really feel related with, not only a enterprise as a job, however a enterprise in a means that lets you be self expressed and to be you on this planet. So I hope you get pleasure from this episode.
Sam Laura Brown
So right this moment I’ve a and I’ve one in all these every week a day that’s not with any of my youngsters. So that is I’ve I work sometimes three days every week. Properly, sort of I wish to say it’s extra like 10 or 12 hours every week throughout the three days that the three oldest youngsters are in daycare. So I’ve a 4 yr outdated, two, two and a half yr olds, twin boys, after which somewhat 4 month outdated boy. My 4 yr outdated is a daughter, so the youngsters are at daycare or on the grandparents. And sees that on a run, I’m sitting right here on the deck, all I can see, possibly you’ll be able to see it within the reflection. All I can see is, is bushes like a full 180 we did a renovation of our home in 2021 and put on this huge, stunning, raked ceiling, in order that we will totally see out into the tree tops and actually simply really feel so in nature, which I like, and I’m simply reflecting on like I’m simply sitting right here, like getting warmed up, having a cup of tea, listening to some inspiring issues, like all of that that I like to do, and simply reflecting on how a lot I like having a enterprise.
That sounds tacky, possibly, however that simply in a previous life once I was an accountant and having to go at 7am on the practice and going to work for full day, and I didn’t hate accounting. Plenty of entrepreneurs are like I might by no means work for another person. I used to be completely satisfied to work for another person. I preferred being round different folks, despite the fact that I’m such an introvert, for certain, and doubtless I’d say sluggish to heat up, to be cool basically. I’m very pleasant, however I identical to, you understand, identical to to watch earlier than I embrace myself. And I preferred, you understand, Friday afternoon drinks and issues like that. I didn’t thoughts working for another person, however I didn’t really feel like me once I was in that job, and the commute was tremendous. I’d be engaged on my weblog. That’s how I began my enterprise as a blogger, and I’d work on it earlier than I went onto the practice to try to get some momentum going, which did finally work, I found out how one can get momentum whereas working full time and have the ability to now be in a spot the place I’ve been full time in my enterprise, properly, working half time, making full time revenue or greater than that, the previous few years, for certain.
So anyway, what I like most for me, lots of people discuss freedom. Time, freedom, nice. That’s nice. Location, independence, that’s nice. I’ve these issues, which is superb. And for me, these aren’t the primary issues. And each time folks have talked about like, it’s so good, you understand, you wish to have a enterprise to have freedom. That by no means resonated with me till I found out the liberty that I like essentially the most, which is the liberty to be me, the liberty to really feel like I can really be my true self once I’m at work. As a result of in my accounting job, I needed to faux that I preferred accounting. I needed to faux that I used to be going to be persevering with my research changing into a chartered accountant, once I really had no plans to try this as a result of I used to be making an attempt to get my weblog off the bottom, I simply needed to do loads of pretending. And I felt like, and that is the perfectionism too, I felt like I needed to not present the facet of me that like, loves private growth and determining a few enterprise, and I simply needed to be this different model of myself, which was tremendous, nevertheless it didn’t really feel like me.
And so I felt very disconnected from myself once I was in that job, and now as a coach. And so I coach, perfectionist, entrepreneurs, and I really feel prefer it’s simply such the right mix for me of like, all of the issues I like, enterprise I like figuring that out, private growth. I like like, that’s how I received into the enterprise world. Was discovering private growth podcasts after which discovering enterprise podcasts by way of that, and being like, oh my god, enterprise is simply the place you’ll be able to really do private growth in such a tangible means that I simply actually cherished, like, how measurable it was, and simply various things like that. So I might actually and I can, like, use my mind. I like having a job, if you’ll, the place I really feel challenged. There are some people who find themselves like, you understand, I had such an excellent day right this moment at work. I did nothing.
It was so loopy that for me, by no means my superb day on the subject of work, my superb day once I’m working is I felt so engaged and I this problem that I’m determining, even when it’s irritating at occasions, like that was one thing I used to be determining, whether or not it was for myself or for another person, like I like having a task the place I really feel challenged and I really feel like I’m rising like that, freedom to be me, to self specific, and the liberty to develop like the liberty to have the ability to change and develop and like, for these of you who’ve adopted me for the reason that starting, which I do know there are a couple of of you who’ve, I’ve grown and developed a lot since then, I really feel like a very totally different model of myself. Some cool issues are the identical, however I really feel just like the issues I’m doing right this moment, my previous self by no means thought I’d have the ability to do, even simply recording a video like this, the place I’m simply chatting after which simply going to share it, that felt so international.
However having the liberty to be me, and having the liberty to vary and develop and develop, has been such a present to myself, just like the braveness that it took to have the ability to put myself on this path. There have been loads of moments of feeling my legs trembling and needing to take the leap and needing to again myself once I felt like there was no proof. But additionally, and I do know loads of my shoppers relate to this of like, you deeply imagine in your self after which you may have a lot self doubt on the identical time, and it’s like making an attempt to reconcile the 2 issues. I knew I might do it and I used to be additionally so scared that I couldn’t, however I needed to again myself when it got here to investing in myself, for instance, when it got here to leaving my full time job once I wasn’t but making an revenue, I had made like, $3,000 in whole from my enterprise, and I went to a component time job, however at that time I used to be, like, veering off totally the company path.
I had a regulation diploma, a finance diploma, a Diploma of French, after which right here I used to be saying, Hey, I’m going to depart this accounting job at a high agency in order that I can go and be a receptionist, in order that I’ve extra time to work on this enterprise that’s making no cash like that’s what I did, and I’m simply pleased with previous me for being prepared to to really feel the emotions that got here With that, to really feel the concern and assist myself by way of that, and get supported by way of that as properly, however I needed to be the largest supporter. Nobody might take the leap for me, or take the various leaps that have been required to get right here, to the purpose the place now I’m simply sitting right here and it feels prefer it simply appears like regular life. However once I actually sit and mirror on all of these, like micro moments and large moments too, however all of simply the little brave acts of like going to an occasion, for instance, like I received requested to talk at a college, and I used to be terrified, terrified to try this.
And I bear in mind on the morning of it, it was about an hour drive from my home, and I used to be like, I hope I crashed my automobile. I hope one thing unhealthy occurs to have me keep away from having to do that, talking, which might be even worse than no matter might occur. Fortunately, I didn’t manifest any of that. I did it. It was so scary, and I’m so glad that I did it, however simply so many moments the place I felt so uncomfortable, even simply initially exhibiting up and posting something, I saved all the pieces an entire secret from everybody in my life, everybody in my life, everybody no exceptions for like, the primary yr, it took me so lengthy to inform anybody, even my husband, Steve, we have been relationship on the time once I first began, and like, I didn’t inform him I couldn’t even, like, it was so exhausting to even do it simply with myself, like I used to be simply so judgmental of myself that to consider sharing it with another person who might choose me, despite the fact that I knew they most likely wouldn’t. However then I didn’t know that, as a result of I used to be judging me so harshly.
So anyway, I simply am so appreciative of getting the liberty to be imply in my work, and the liberty to develop and to vary and to develop and to vary my concepts on issues and develop them into to be scared to do one thing one yr after which have it really feel utterly regular to do it the following yr, simply due to how I’ve up leveled. And to now as a mother of 4, to now be ready as properly, the place, as a result of I’ve performed a lot work on my perfectionism and my mindset and likewise on my resilience, like there’s so many talent units inside entrepreneurship, so my resilience and tenacity and progress mindedness to have the ability to go, Okay, that didn’t work. What else might work and will I be taught a brand new talent right here, as a substitute of simply being like, properly, I’m not good at that. A lot of that abilities like advertising, gross sales, teaching, like there’s so many abilities I’ve developed, and simply the mother that I get to be now’s so totally different to the mother I’d have been earlier than, or if I hadn’t set myself on this path and performed these brave issues and actually fought for or stood for the liberty to be close to my work and the liberty to develop and alter.
And it has been a wild trip in some ways. And I like that. Like once I was in my accounting job, and I might see, so we’re sitting, for those who’ve labored in a company job earlier than, we have been in, like an open plan workplace, so that you’re sitting, I’m gonna have two folks subsequent to me, like of their desk with our pc arrange, after which across the corners of the room are like the perimeters, all of the companions can be in there, of their workplace, behind their glass, what’s it referred to as partitions, and so they’d have their desks in there. And the understanding of like, if I simply proceed right here and simply maintain working right here, I’m simply going to be sitting doing this identical factor, however in that workplace proper there, as a lot because the perfectionist in me loves certainty and loves that sense of like I do know precisely what’s going to occur. That bored me, the considered, I do know precisely what’s going to occur, and as a lot as I prefer to assume, I like certainty, I didn’t. I didn’t need the understanding of that.
I wished the likelihood that comes with uncertainty, the potential of the unknown and never figuring out what’s going to occur, and can the enterprise work or not work, or like, what are all of the issues and can it find yourself being utterly totally different to what I’m imagining? And despite the fact that that’s unsure, it was a lot extra participating, and I felt a lot extra alive within the problem of that and the chance of that, then within the secure sure factor, which, by the best way, now loads of these jobs are usually not secure and sure, as they by no means actually have been on the time, simply the notion of that, however I actually needed to stand for chance and backing myself once I had no proof, actually that I might do it, and no proof but that it was working when it comes to, like, goal metrics, however to only have the ability to, now as a mum, have the ability to be such a extra a self expressed model of myself, such a extra assured model of myself, and to have the ability to embrace my youngsters as properly.
So my husband’s a paramedic, so you’ll be able to see, like when an ambulance goes by, the youngsters are like, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, and like listening to the ambulance as a result of they’re nearly age. However I feel all youngsters love them, and so they get to know my daddy drives an ambulance. For me as a life coach and a enterprise coach. Like, I can’t, like, they will’t see me out within the wild, like, so to talk, the identical means they will with their dad. So like, what I love to do is in my residence workplace, I prefer to have, like, on the weekend I had Lydia in my workplace with me, and I wasn’t even desirous to work, however she requested, might you do some work so I can sit subsequent to you and colour in? And I used to be watching some movies on like AI in enterprise and issues like that, and which I’m actually eager about for the time being. And he or she was identical to, there having the ability to see me studying and rising and doing what I do and and never simply that, like seeing me be like, engaged and alive once I’m fascinated by my work.
And I feel for our children as properly, it’s such a present for them that Steve and I each love what we do for work. I feel modeling that work is one thing the place you get to discover your pursuits and also you get to be you and like that. We each not even that. We are saying that we simply dwell that. I feel that’s such a present, and that will not have been the case if I hadn’t taken these these leaps and put myself on the market in ways in which made my legs tremble and I by no means was like, making an attempt to, like, shock my means into the expansion. It was identical to, hey, go somewhat bit past what’s snug, after which somewhat bit past that. Till now, I’m in a very totally different actuality. My previous phantasm is now my present actuality. That’s how delusion works. Once you’re fascinated by like manifestation and all of these issues, which I like, that for those who’re going to be life like, then you definately’re simply going to get extra of your identical actuality. However being delusional, being prepared to be delusional, which will be. Exhausting. In case you establish as a sensible, clever particular person, it might probably really feel dumb to be delusional. It will possibly really feel such as you’re not doing the accountable factor.
Plenty of perfection is that come up of like this. That is irresponsible to be delusional. I must be life like. What that basically is is we wish to be secure. We’re making an attempt to be secure and never be dissatisfied, as a result of we don’t imagine we will deal with our personal disappointment, and we will’t deal with ourselves after we’re dissatisfied, like we will’t meet ourselves there, and actually simply having the ability to be in a spot now the place I’m capable of simply dwell like hey, and I’m nonetheless making errors in figuring issues out and like and that I like have. I like that I like. I like that about enterprise and about private growth, that it isn’t identical to a math check the place it’s like, right here’s the reply, tick, you bought it proper? That’s it like. It’s a lot extra nuanced and evolving and complicated and easy. It’s simply participating, and I find it irresistible. So for me, on the subject of enterprise, my freedom that I needed to stand for and struggle for, wasn’t about, and a few folks is totally different. However for me, it wasn’t about, I need time, freedom. It wasn’t about I need location, independence. I wished the liberty to be me, and I wished the liberty to have the ability to be taught and develop and evolve.
Outro
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