[Planning Series] Procrasti-Planning Versus Planning Correctly

[Part 1 of 5] Perfectionists get in their very own approach after they observe the identical planning recommendation as everybody else. That’s why I’ve recorded a 5-part planning collection for the podcast that’ll allow you to plan correctly as a perfectionist.

This planning collection is for perfectionists who write and rewrite lengthy to-do lists of enterprise duties they by no means begin, fall behind as a result of they underestimate how lengthy issues will take and have notebooks stuffed with concepts they haven’t executed something with.

This episode (half 1 of the Planning Collection) is all in regards to the variations between procrasti-planning and planning correctly as a perfectionist. This can allow you to perceive the place you’ve been going incorrect with planning so you are able to do one thing about it.
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Introduction
Hello and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Venture. A podcast stuffed with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My identify is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake, to allow them to get out of their very own approach and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out group teaching program, which is in any other case generally known as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that can assist you with your enterprise, you’ll be able to observe me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.

Sam Laura Brown (Customized introduction)
You’ll love this. I simply know that is going to be good timing that I’m releasing these episodes at this time. So what I’m doing is I’m releasing the 5 hottest episodes of this podcast, which is the Planning collection on how you can plan correctly as a perfectionist, whether or not you may have listened earlier than, whether or not that is going to be your first time listening, in case you have been getting in your individual approach, in your enterprise, in the event you’ve been having a tough time displaying up, if that you may be extra profitable in the event you might simply truly observe via with the plans that you simply make. what to do. You’re simply not doing it. This collection is simply going to be the most effective factor for you. So I need to invite you to take heed to all 5 elements of this collection. They’re going to be profoundly useful. And I additionally need to invite you to affix us inside my program. Perfectionist Getting Shit Carried out. So we are literally within the final enrollment of this 12 months, so doorways will likely be closing at 11:59pm jap time on Friday the twenty first of November. In order that’s only some days away, and I need to invite you inside, as a result of initially, there’s clearly by no means a greater time to get out of your individual approach than the current.

There’s simply having the ability to create the compound impact and like be in that momentum earlier than the 12 months is even over. I do know we love to attend until January and all of that, however what if, as a substitute of ready for January to start out getting out of your individual approach, you had been out of your individual approach and on that path by January, in order that come January, you’re not ranging from a standstill. That’s what I need to invite you into in December, we additionally do an annual reflection as a neighborhood the 12 months in evaluation, and we do planning for the next 12 months. So I need to invite you to be there for that, whether or not it’s being there stay with us, doing the replay, irrespective of your time zone, doing that’s going to set you up for the most effective 2026 and likewise, while you join Perfectionist Getting Shit Carried out, you’ll get prompt entry to every thing, together with the facility planning course, which you’ll be able to watch begin to end in a day after which be planning correctly as a perfectionist, together with the assist and the unbelievable neighborhood and different instruments which might be there for you inside PGSD as effectively. So I hope you take pleasure in this collection, and I need to invite you to affix us inside PGSD, earlier than the doorways shut at 11:59pm jap time this Friday, the twenty first of November, you’ll be able to go to samlaurabrown.com/pgsd, the hyperlink will likely be down there for you within the present notes to go and join at this time and be a part of us inside.

Sam Laura Brown
So this episode is the primary in a 5 half collection that I’m placing right here on the podcast that can assist you plan correctly as a perfectionist. So let’s simply rapidly discuss what meaning to plan correctly as a perfectionist. So planning correctly means that you’re planning which might be simple to observe via on. I do know this will sound a bit scary at first, since you may suppose, Nicely, I’m not going to be very productive, if it’s simple to do the issues that I had in my plan. I’m going to be speaking about that afterward on this collection, belief me, however you can be planning in a approach that solves your follow-through downside with out you having to have extra willpower or be extra motivated.

So proper now, you may be feeling such as you’re simply not the type of one that can observe via together with your plans. And in the event you do, you’re not the type of one that can try this constantly. So proper now, in the event you make plans who say you sit down each week, and also you write a plan for the week, and also you’re doing that for a number of weeks in a row, you may be pondering, how lengthy is that this going to final? How lengthy is it going to be earlier than I fall off the wagon? Once more, and again to my outdated methods. In order that’s an indication you’re not planning correctly, I’m going to be speaking about extra of them in a minute. However we need to have you ever planning in a approach the place it’s simple to observe via, which makes it simple to construct that self-trust that you simply want with the intention to be decisive in your enterprise that you simply want so as to have the ability to deal with failure. In the event you don’t have self-trust, these issues are going to be very difficult. And it’s going to be virtually not possible to have the ability to construct a profitable enterprise.

Once you’re planning correctly. You’re additionally getting your perfectionist mindset. In your facet, you might be studying how you can actually see that deep perfectionism work that it is advisable to do. And also you’re in a position to try this work with the assistance of your planning software, as a result of it’ll allow you to discover, the place are you continue to getting pulled in direction of overwhelm.  The place are you continue to procrastinating? The place are you in that or not within the mindset, you’re going to be planning in a approach that brings up your stage of self-awareness. So you are able to do that work in your perfectionism to get in that development mindset and get out of your individual approach. So that you’re actually displaying up absolutely, and residing into that potential that that you’ve as a enterprise proprietor, as a result of my guess is in the event you’re something like PGSD is that that you’re meant to be doing greater than together with your life than simply going via the motions and ticking the packing containers, and doing what everybody else is doing.

And but, there’s something that that’s making you get in your individual approach. And there’s this hole proper now between who you see your self as being and the way you’re displaying up in your day-to-day. And it’s so irritating. I’ve been there, I’ve been there for thus a few years, I used to be in that place the place I felt like there’s a lot extra for me than being on this accounting job, and simply doing what everybody thinks I ought to do. And but, I’m not in a position to get myself to do the issues that I must do in my enterprise. So I can truly stay the life that I need to stay. And if somebody had come and informed me, “Hey, you truly simply have a planning downside”, such as you’re simply not planning in a approach that works to your mindset and its serving to you to observe via simply and serving to you to in the end get out of that perfectionist mindset and into the expansion mindset. It might have been so useful, it will have been utterly life-changing for me, for somebody to have informed me that however nobody did.

I needed to actually piece it collectively and determine it out and simply actually see how essential it’s that as perfectionists we’re planning correctly. So that features objective setting, that features planning in a approach that makes follow-through simple. So in PGSD, we train energy planning, and likewise clear relaxation. And when you may have the three of these mixed, and also you’re doing it in a approach that will get your perfectionist mindset in your facet, sufficient that you are able to do the work to get out of that perfectionist mindset. Then being productive is really easy, like not procrastinating and never feeling overwhelmed. And getting out of burnout. These issues develop into simple, and truly following via constantly.

And having the ability to belief your self to make choices and making these choices with out second-guessing, with out going again on them, without having to outsource that. So that you’re at all times wanting a trainer or a mentor or a buddy or somebody on YouTube to let you know what to do. You’re in a position to truly make these choices. That every one begins with planning correctly. As a perfectionist, so that’s what this five-part collection goes that can assist you do. I’m additionally going to be inviting you to affix us in PGSD.

So all through this collection, I’m additionally going to be telling you the way PGSD will help you apply every thing that you simply’re gonna be studying on this collection and actually do the deep, intentional work that’s actually required to get out of your individual approach. And that is one thing that comes up loads, I get a whole lot of questions from individuals saying, effectively, I like the podcast, I can so relate to every thing you discuss. I’m simply pondering that I ought to apply every thing I’ve realized without cost on the podcast earlier than signing up for PGSD. I’m going to be speaking about {that a} bit later. And going into that I’ve already talked about procrasti-learning on this podcast and the way that falls into that realm. However what I actually need to invite you to think about is that the individuals who relate to this podcast essentially the most, develop into our most profitable PGSD’s it’s not that, okay, they love the podcast. And so meaning they don’t want PGSD.

PGSD actually lets you truly apply and implement and stay, what you may have realized via this podcast. It’s a distinction between understanding and having the ability to inform a buddy about perfectionism, or having the ability to type of, , I possibly have some self-awareness, and you’ve got in all probability had a number of wins that you simply’ve been in a position to get out of your individual approach a bit and begin one thing you possibly hadn’t been in a position to begin earlier than. And that type of factor, which is wonderful. And I like that the podcast helps individuals try this. However in PGSD, we’re about truly residing these ideas. And it’s messy, it’s difficult. It requires assist and training, and neighborhood, and all these various things that aren’t offered by this podcast. So I’m going to be telling you extra about PGSD. It’s as much as you whether or not or not you select to affix us. And I’m going to be actually sharing loads on this five-part collection about how you can plan correctly as a perfectionist. So no matter whether or not you select to join PGSD now, you select to enroll later, you select by no means to enroll, that you simply’re in such a greater place this 12 months, in relation to your enterprise. As a result of in the event you aren’t planning correctly, in the event you aren’t planning in the way in which that helps you do your perfectionism work, and likewise in a approach that makes it simple to observe via, then it doesn’t matter what your Instagram technique is, it doesn’t matter what your technique is for just about something, since you received’t have the ability to get your self to do it. And also you received’t have the ability to even in the event you try this, do it constantly, you’ll maintain falling-off the wagon and beginning over once more. And also you received’t truly have the ability to expertise the advantages of the entire issues that you’ve realized since you’re not in a position to do them. 

All of it begins with planning. In order that’s what we’re going to be speaking about on this collection. That’s why that is the subject. So let’s discuss on this episode about planning vs. procrasti-planning. So once we take into consideration procrasti-planning, I need you to consider it in two methods. The primary is that procrasti-planning is when planning turns into a type of procrastination. So we perfectionists, love planning. And once we’re not planning correctly, we find yourself with this love-hate relationship with planning the place we love sitting down and determining what we’re going to do. And but we hate planning. As a result of once we’re not planning correctly, we type of secretly know already, we’re not gonna have the ability to observe via with these plans that we’re simply gonna find yourself feeling unhealthy as a result of we’re thus far behind. And there’s solely issues that we haven’t executed. And what we will actually do when our perfectionism handbrake is on is that we plan so lengthy. We rewrite to-do lists, we attempt to get so nitty-gritty with the element. We expect if I can simply have this good plan, then every thing else will likely be simple.

Now you may suppose I’ve simply been saying that, that in case you have this good plan, then every thing else is simple. Once you’re planning correctly as a perfectionist, you might be planning in a approach that makes follow-through simple. Following via includes doing issues which may not work. It includes being brave and scared. It includes placing your self on the market while you may be judged. And I do know you in all probability don’t need to hear me say that. You need to hear me say that in the event you’re planning correctly as a perfectionist, you’re making the correct plans which might be assured to work and get you the precise outcomes that you really want. However that’s what we’re serious about once we procrasti-planning. We try to make the correct plans. In order that we by no means need to expertise failure. And the disgrace which may include that. We by no means need to expertise success. We don’t need to be too profitable. As a result of which may imply that we aren’t relatable anymore to the individuals in our lives. After which we would really feel disconnected, deserted, ashamed. So we’re attempting to, like, continually stroll this line between failure and success. So we’re profitable sufficient, however not too profitable. After which we haven’t failed, however no less than we will relate to individuals in our life who’s struggling.

So it’s actually exhausting to be attempting to stroll that line. However that’s going into this procrasti-planning, that’s a part of it, that we’re actually attempting to plan in a approach the place we will keep away from any type of detrimental emotion as a result of we don’t belief ourselves to have the ability to expertise that we’re attempting to keep away from making the incorrect determination, as a result of we don’t belief ourselves to make the correct one. So additionally, we will spend a lot time planning, and re-planning, and re-planning and planning to plan that we don’t even have any time to do the issues and it may really feel like we are literally spending a whole lot of time on our enterprise due to how a lot thought we’re placing into planning. But when we’re not executing, we’re not implementing, we’re not doing the issues. We’re truly probably not engaged on a enterprise. I’m not saying that tremendous pondering and pondering at a excessive stage. And all of that isn’t a part of constructing a enterprise, it most positively is. However as soon as that goes on for too lengthy, it turns into a type of procrastination. In order that’s a technique we will take into consideration procrasti-planning. The opposite approach is that we’re planning in a approach that stops us from taking motion. So it permits procrastination.

So let me simply make this distinction a bit bit extra clear. So once we are planning in a approach that stops us from taking motion, which may imply you’re not truly spending that lengthy planning, possibly you’re not even planning it in any respect, as a result of in the event you don’t even suppose you observe via together with your plan. So why hassle. However you might be planning in a approach that places you within the Oh and I feel mindset with out you even realizing it, that makes you are feeling overwhelmed. That’s making you procrastinate, that’s making you burned out. And also you may be pondering that you simply’re planning correctly, since you’re following all the recommendation on the market about planning and how you can do and I’m going to be giving a really particular instance in a second of some actually frequent recommendation round planning and why it doesn’t work for a perfectionist just like the items which might be lacking.

But when we return to this definition of procrasti-planning, it’s when planning turns into a type of procrastination. So we’re doing for thus lengthy, that we’re not taking any motion, there’s no time left for that. Or we’re planning in a approach that stops us from taking motion that turns that perfectionism handbrake on. And this will actually occur with out us intending for any of that to occur. And once more, this isn’t as a result of there’s something incorrect with you. It’s simply since you’ve been following recommendation that doesn’t work for a perfectionist, so much less about a number of the indicators that your procrasti-planning, in case you’re not clear but, whether or not that is you now, I simply need to preface this with, in the event you can relate to every thing I say, don’t really feel unhealthy about it.

Self-awareness is so essential. That’s the very first thing that you simply want so as to have the ability to change. And likewise the truth that I can articulate it so clearly means, A. I’ve skilled it, B. you’re not the one one. As a result of if it was solely you, nobody would have the ability to clarify it in a approach that really clicked with you. So listed here are a number of the indicators that you simply’re procrasti-planning. The primary is feeling responsible, since you haven’t executed sufficient, although you’re at all times working. So that you at all times really feel behind. And but you’re at all times doing issues for your enterprise, you’re making an extended to do checklist, however then you definately don’t even know which job to work on first. So you find yourself doing nothing in any respect, you’re rewriting your plans from scratch, since you fell too far behind by the third day. So possibly you sit down, you do that huge planning session. And also you observe via completely for a few days. However you’ll be able to’t maintain it. You fall behind then the checklist of unfinished duties is simply so lengthy, that it turns into overwhelming and also you simply scrap it, you wipe the entire thing. And also you rewrite it. You’re deleting the Instagram app of your telephone to attempt to cease your self from procrastinating. So that you type of at that time the place you’re simply attempting to.. like that need to procrastinate could be very robust. And also you’re simply attempting to do each trick and tip and tactic you’ll be able to to attempt to get your self to cease. So possibly you’ve used these web blocking apps, possibly you may have use an app in your telephone, for instance, the place there’s this one which I used to make use of truly, like a tree grows in your display screen. After which in the event you exit the app, the tree dies. And the thought is you’ll be able to’t have a look at anything whereas this app is open in your telephone. So that you may be doing issues like that the place you might be simply attempting to get your self to cease procrastinate. You’re type of doing the equal of in the event you’re attempting to eat wholesome, then you definately take away all of the junk meals from the home, you are attempting to try this in relation to procrastination, you’re attempting to be targeted by regardless of, keen your approach to be there. Since you don’t know how you can cease procrastinating. A part of that’s you’re simply planning in a approach that makes it simple to procrastinate, we’re gonna go into that extra on this collection.

So that you’re working via further hours, while you informed your accomplice, you’d solely want 5 extra minutes. So it may be the tip of the day and be like, Hey, you prepared for dinner? Like, yeah, simply 5 extra minutes, 5 minutes. After which earlier than it, the entire evening is gone. Since you’re simply nonetheless working away your enterprise, you’re pushing off duties, as a result of there’s no boss counting on you to get your work executed. So that you in all probability have executed fairly effectively. And possibly you’re nonetheless working in a full time or half time job with another person managing you. And certain, it may be procrastinating whilst you’re in your job, however you at all times get it executed by the deadline to your boss. However in relation to enterprise, there’s no deadline. There’s no exterior individual, a boss or supervisor who’s saying, Hey, the place’s that I want to purchase this date. And so that you simply push issues off. Since you aren’t in a position to honor your individual deadlines with your self. Additionally, you may have notebooks stuffed with concepts for your enterprise that you simply haven’t executed something with. These are simply a number of the indicators that you’re procrasti-planning, so for planning for thus lengthy, that it takes away time so that you can truly do issues. Or you might be planning in a approach that stops you from taking motion and is definitely enabling procrastination.

So let’s discuss why perfection is continually the identical planning recommendation as everybody else. So what I did simply earlier than recording that is I Googled how you can plan your week, or the same phrase to that. And I simply needed to see, like, what recommendation would come up once I google that. And clearly, there’s a whole lot of recommendation on the web about planning. And I need to point out a few issues I noticed on the primary article I learn and clarify why this recommendation it’s so frequent doesn’t truly work for a perfectionist. And it truly makes a perfectionist mindset work towards us. So then that is an uphill battle. So first instance was they stated, spend 15 to half-hour, planning your week on a Friday afternoon or a Sunday night. So mainly, on the finish of your week, spend a few minutes to plan your subsequent one. So a few issues with this. The primary is that 15 to half-hour will not be sufficient time to plan your week correctly, it’s sufficient time to jot down a fucking lengthy to do checklist that by no means will get executed. It’s sufficient time to overwhelm your self with all of the issues that it is advisable to do and type of try this mind dump. But it surely’s not sufficient time to really suppose it via prioritizing it.

A part of prioritization is deciding what you’re not going to do, deciding what you’re going to depart for later, to make contingency plans to determine how lengthy the duties are going to take you the way a lot time you want for relaxation. And I’m going to speak about that extra in a second. However 15 to half-hour. In my expertise, as somebody who’s been planning correctly as a perfectionist now for, I’d say no less than three years, that that’s not sufficient time, it’s sufficient time to get you into overwhelm, it’s not sufficient time to get you out of it once more.

So once we’re energy planning, as step one of that we’re writing an enormous mind dump of the issues that we have to do, simply getting out of our mind and onto the web page. However it may’t cease there the opposite 45 minutes is spent getting out of the overwhelm, making the plan workable, contemplating contingencies, like what occurs if my youngster is sick, what occurs if I want to remain again at work? What occurs if I don’t have the vitality after I get house from my full-time job to do the factor I do know I must do for my enterprise.

If we do spend 15 to half-hour, then we’re not going to really set ourselves up for achievement. And so whilst you may need a number of lists of issues in your planner, that to-do checklist, you’re not truly going to have the ability to observe via with these plans. Additionally, it’d been on the Friday afternoon or the Sunday night. That’s nice. You are able to do your planning then. However once we suppose it must be then if one thing comes up on Friday afternoon or one thing comes up on Sunday night, or each time it’s, then we don’t get it executed in any respect. And we simply type of skip the entire week.

So in energy planning, we do the facility hour and we additionally do a weekly evaluation. And I are likely to do my weekly evaluation instantly earlier than my energy hour in order that mixed and I don’t at all times try this on a Sunday. I don’t at all times try this on a Monday. I don’t at all times do it on a Tuesday. It’s simply type of inside that realm of the tip of my weekend starting of the subsequent one. And for instance at this time I’m recording this, it’s Tuesday, and I haven’t executed my weekly evaluation but. I have already got my energy planning in my calendar, however I haven’t executed the weekly evaluation. I’m going to do it this night however one thing got here up. So I needed to regulate. So if we’re on this mindset that it must be this particular time, and we’re in that each one or nothing mind-set, then if one thing occurs, we simply don’t do the weekly evaluation in any respect. We don’t do the planning session in any respect. After which we’re simply winging it for the entire week hoping we’re going to be productive.

The opposite factor that I need to discuss in that article, there are numerous that I might have talked about was, that is what it stated, begin by making a listing of every thing you need to get executed that week, then have a look at every merchandise and determine in your 4 or 5 largest priorities for the week. In the event you plan your week, however fail to prioritize, you don’t know the place to start out. Agree, prioritization is essential. However initially, as I’ve talked about right here of the significance of prioritizing relaxation. However that apart, it is advisable to determine what you’ll and received’t do. So the way in which that is talked about is that there’s this lengthy to-do checklist. And then you definately’re in all probability highlighting 4 or 5 belongings you need to get executed this week.

Now on the floor. Cool, that sounds nice. That sounds useful. However what tends to occur is we predict, Nicely, yeah, they’re my priorities. However I ought to have the ability to get all of this executed. And we don’t deliberately determine what isn’t going to occur this week, what are we going to depart for the subsequent week or for subsequent month, we don’t have a framework to really make that call. So we simply type of have this complete factor hovering over us. And even when we acquired these 4 or 5 largest priorities executed, we nonetheless wouldn’t really feel like we’ve executed sufficient, as a result of we’re specializing in what wasn’t executed, fairly than what was. Additionally, do you even have sufficient time in your week for these priorities? And are they too obscure? So for instance, these priorities, if we do what’s taken, , what’s on this recommendation, we’d write this lengthy to do checklist with obscure issues like, , work on Instagram technique, write posts, no matter, like these obscure issues. And then you definately may spotlight a number of of them. However you don’t know a few of them may be this huge venture. So it may be like, work on launch of my product. That’s so obscure, you’re gonna really feel so overwhelmed. promote my enterprise, that’s so obscure, you’re gonna really feel so overwhelmed with that? And do you even have sufficient time to try this? Like, what else is occurring in your week? What are your commitments? How a lot relaxation do you need to have? Do it is advisable to train and exercise? Like, what does that appear like? Do you may have sufficient time to try this?

That’s what I like with energy planning. We work from a digital calendar. So you might be actually, actually confronted with the constraints of how a lot time we’ve in per week. And likewise the abundance of how a lot time we’ve in per week once we use that point effectively, so this recommendation right here, actually doesn’t pay any regard. And I learn the remainder of the article, it wasn’t talked about there both to determining how lengthy issues are going to take. And spoiler alert, none of us know the way lengthy a brand new job we’ve by no means executed earlier than goes to take. It’s not like everybody else is aware of precisely how lengthy they should work for to get one thing executed. And also you’re the one one who doesn’t know, you’re the one one who’s unhealthy at judging time for a way lengthy it is going to take. It’s a ability, it takes observe. And there’s a whole lot of totally different approaches to that. However it is advisable to truly take a look at “Do I’ve time?” Like, am I setting myself up for failure from the get-go if these 4 or 5 largest priorities that I’m committing to doing?

In the event that they aren’t actually gonna have sufficient time, even when I used to be a robotic who didn’t must eat or sleep or do anything? And likewise, are these 4 or 5 largest priorities? Like, the place do they fall into when it comes to the larger targets that you’ve. And what you’re working in direction of is one thing we regularly overlook as effectively, I feel this text did point out like you may have your long-term imaginative and prescient. However we need to be sure that your plans are literally going to get you nearer to your objective.

Now, as I stated earlier than, that doesn’t imply that every thing you set in your calendar goes to work and get you the specified final result. And also you’re by no means gonna fail and any of that. And that’s one of many causes we procrastri-plan is as a result of we predict we should always solely put issues which might be proper into our calendar. However we have to be sure that we are literally planning in a approach that units us up for achievement and makes observe via simple fairly than having these 4 or 5 obscure priorities which might be often worded in such a approach that it’s virtually not possible to even inform in the event you did it or not. After which beating ourselves up as a result of even when we acquired them executed, there was nonetheless extra to do if we didn’t get them executed. We’ll have a look at all these different issues I nonetheless need to do and I didn’t even get that stuff executed.

An enormous downside with this as effectively is dedication that while you’re planning on this approach, it’s actually difficult to commit as a result of you’ll be able to’t even see what you’re actually committing to so like I hope I’m productive. And likewise, that is this complete all of this recommendation these two factors. And every thing that’s encompassed by that’s written as in the event you’re meant to really feel like doing it such as you really feel like planning your week, you are feeling like doing all your weekly evaluation, you are feeling like selecting what these 4 or 5 largest priorities are. And that’s simple. And that’s such an essential a part of planning correctly, is to plan to your unmotivated self as in in the event you weren’t motivated, you may observe via on these plans.

What we are likely to do, particularly once we observe regular planning recommendation, is that we predict we’re meant to really feel like our planning session, as a result of belief me, while you’re planning correctly, as a perfectionist, you should have some resistance to that planning session, as a result of it requires a whole lot of mind energy, that one hour of brainpower within the Energy Hour goes to set you up for such an unbelievable week with ups and downs and all of the issues that enterprise includes, however it’ll set you up for achievement. However you’re going to withstand it the identical with the weekly evaluation, you’re going to need to put it off. The identical with any job in your enterprise that requires braveness and requires you to do one thing new, you’re going to need to put it off. So if we plan as if Oh, effectively, that’s simply really easy you simply sit down and make these choices and do the issues, then we find yourself creating this concept that it ought to be simple. And there’s one thing incorrect with us as a result of it’s not.

It’s gonna be difficult, particularly to start with, to observe making choices and backing your self. And to observe having constraint and never scripting this big to-do checklist. After which attempting to do all of it by constraining your self to those are the issues I’m going to do. I’ve checked out my calendar, I’ve checked out how a lot vitality I’ve in a day. And I’ve made an assumption that you simply’re gonna take a look at. So what you do in energy planning is you’ll make your plan, you’ll and I’m speaking about this within the subsequent episode, the three steps.

In order a Energy Hour, little tweaks, and the weekly evaluation so that you’re gonna make your plan that on a regular basis you’ll tweak it, maintain it workable, make changes as wanted. And then you definately’re going to evaluation it, what labored, what didn’t work, what to do in another way, so that you could plan higher than subsequent week. So it’s gonna take observe, to actually be on this place the place you’re on this groove with it. And it’s really easy. It’s enjoyable which you can get that like, belief me, so I was so annoyed with planning and having that love-hate relationship and feeling like there was one thing incorrect with me, as a result of I ought to be smarter than procrastinating on a regular basis and being overwhelmed and being burned out like I knew higher. And but I wasn’t doing higher. And that was so irritating. However once I was in a position to actually see the planning downside, and make these tweaks that I wanted to make, in order that I might plan correctly as a perfectionist, it doesn’t imply that it was all simple. There was no challenges ever. However once I was in a position to be in a development minded strategy to it, and I’m going to speak about that later within the collection as effectively with a 3 month dedication. However once I was in a position to try this, issues acquired a lot extra enjoyable, a lot extra fulfilling.

It additionally introduced up difficult perfectionism work that I’ve been in a position to keep away from by working from a to do checklist. But it surely all actually that that’s when my enterprise actually began to take off is once I acquired this planning piece down. So let’s discuss why we procrasti-plan. So we unknowingly observe recommendation. It doesn’t work for perfectionist, that’s one of many largest causes that we procrasti-plan. Plus, spending time planning means we don’t need to be doing and doing feels scary. As a result of we would fail, we would succeed, we may be rejected all of these various things. But in addition attempting to compensate usually for lack of perception in our targets or ourselves. By attempting to make these plans which might be excellent.

We’re additionally attempting to compensate for an absence of self-trust. We don’t belief ourselves to observe via with our plans. We don’t belief ourselves to be okay with failure. We don’t belief ourselves to make choices. So we compensate for that and suppose if I can simply plan every thing excellent. And I can simply get sufficient willpower to observe via with it. Then possibly I can truly do all these items that I wanna do. When the irony of that’s once we’re attempting to compensate for lack of self belief by procrasti-planning and planning in a approach that doesn’t truly work for perfectionist. Usually the results of that’s that when planning we will’t observe via on which additional depletes self-trust.

We additionally love procrasti-planning as a result of in relation to planning, particularly once we’re doing it in this sort of unintentionally indulgent approach that we get this sense of catharsis prefer it’s actually soothing, particularly once we type of know we don’t need to observe via with the plans anyway, we’re probably not dedicated, we hope we’ll be productive. That it’s cathartic within the sense of like, okay, effectively, possibly I’ll get this executed. And like, we will tick these packing containers and type of get this sense of order and management. Additionally, I like to think about this like shopping for a lottery ticket. So although , your possibilities of falling via a slam, it provides you a way of hope for a greater future. So in relation to an precise lottery ticket, the place you may win cash, however you actually know the probabilities are so, so tiny that you’d win, you’re shopping for the hope of a greater future, you’re shopping for the dream, the chance to dream that many individuals really feel like they don’t have until they’ve that lottery ticket. That is what I purchase, that is what I present. That is what I do with that cash.

And that’s type of what we’re doing once we procrasti-planning. We all know we’re not going to observe via with it. However like, however what if. We simply get to stay in that place of hope, as a substitute of getting into a spot of braveness and being development minded, and truly doing the issues and studying how you can expertise that failure and bounce again from it and expertise successful and be okay with it and all these various things. So once we procrasti-planning, there’s a number of issues with that.

The primary is that we predict the explanation we’re not following via is as a result of there’s one thing incorrect with us. And once we’re on this place of disgrace and inadequacy, that’s when burnout occurs. That’s once we aren’t in a position to be resourceful once we suppose that the issue is there’s one thing incorrect with us. And there’s nothing we will do about that, like, that’s actually what disgrace is, it’s, there’s one thing incorrect with me, fairly than I did one thing incorrect. So once we’re in that place of disgrace, our resourcefulness simply evaporates.

As a result of like, effectively, it’s simply one thing incorrect with me, there’s nothing I can do about it. And we attempt to do issues about it by attempting to realize all these items and make up for it with success and all these different challenges that we’ve that don’t work. But when we’re pondering that there’s one thing incorrect with us, and it’s simple to suppose this, while you procrastinate planning, and as a human being, and we’ve this tendency to suppose there’s one thing incorrect with us, we don’t pull up, and everybody’s gonna discover us out. That when we aren’t in a position to actually determine the planning downside, and there’s one thing that may be executed about it, and I can simply discover ways to plan correctly, we’re then type of simply caught on this rut. And that is the place there actually turns into this huge hole between what you may have the potential to do and what your day-to-day life seems like.

One other downside with procrasti-planning is that in the event you procrasti-planning, you’ll be pondering you’re doing extra to construct your enterprise than you truly are doing. And that is, particularly in the event you’re doing the type of procrasti-planning, the place you’re spending a whole lot of time planning, or possibly you’ve spent a whole lot of time planning to plan studying totally different planning methods and all that type of factor, the place it’s similar to, possibly you may have like these 5 totally different strategies you’re attempting to piece collectively. So it truly works to your perfectionist mind. Once we are doing that, we really feel like we’re engaged on the enterprise. However we’re not, a whole lot of occasions when it goes into that procrastinate planning, it’s not productive. And this then creates entitlement. So it’s type of like in case you are, , you need to get match, you purchase a gymnasium membership. Or you concentrate on going to the gymnasium, you purchase exercise outfits. You write up a meal plan, you do all these items which might be like periphery actions, you’re type of like on the brink of prepare. However you don’t truly go to the gymnasium, then you’ll really feel like, why am I not match but? Like, why don’t I’ve the physique I need. I joined the gymnasium three years in the past, like I ought to be fitter.

But it surely’s since you’re not doing the precise work. So we will do a whole lot of these periphery actions that really feel like they’re essential, however they’re not truly serving to us. And so if you find yourself procrasti-planning, you’re gonna find yourself feeling entitled that you have to be additional alongside. So in the event you’ve been feeling like, I simply know, I ought to be additional alongside in my enterprise, in the event you’re feeling annoyed that new companies are already extra profitable than yours. So that you may see somebody who began their Instagram account after yours and so they have already got extra followers. This can be a signal that you’re procrasti-planning, this can be a signal that due to that procrasti-planning, you suppose you’re doing extra in your enterprise than you truly are, which suggests you suppose you have to be additional alongside than you truly ought to, primarily based on the way you’ve been displaying up. So it additionally creates a whole lot of disgrace while you suppose you’re doing greater than you might be as a result of it’s really easy to have that story that effectively. I’m placing in all this time and it’s not working. There should be one thing incorrect with me. When that’s not the case. It’s simply the procrasti-planning and never planning correctly as a perfectionist. It additionally creates quitting, once we procrasti-plan and we predict that we’re doing extra in our enterprise than we truly are. And we’ve that entitlement and that disgrace and all these different issues. As a result of we’re rational, we determine it’s greatest to give up.

And quitting usually doesn’t appear like a blatant give up. It’s often Oh, I’ve this different thought as a substitute, I’m going to discover, it seems like leaping round from one objective to the subsequent is why in PGSD, you set one objective, your not possible objective for your enterprise, which inserts in with energy planning, you want that not possible objective with the intention to energy plan successfully. But when we’ve so many targets, and a whole lot of perfectionist after they’re not planning correctly, they may have a giant objective for each space of their life. And which means you can be leaping from one objective to the subsequent to the subsequent, each time any of them get uncomfortable, which all of them will, in the event you’re doing something correctly with objective setting, you’re going to be in that dip the place motivation is gone, and also you haven’t but acquired outcomes. So while you get to that dip, you’re going to need to soar to specializing in the subsequent objective. Or truly, I assumed I actually needed to work on my enterprise this 12 months, however my well being and health like, that’s truly the work I must do first, after which that’s going to create a very stable basis of habits. After which when I’ve higher habits, I’ll have the ability to present up for my enterprise extra absolutely. Possibly you’ve been pondering one thing like that. It’s to not say when you may have an not possible objective round your enterprise, that you simply don’t have belongings you’re engaged on in different areas of life, however as a result of the way you do one factor is the way you do every thing.

Having one objective that basically brings up your perfectionism work brings up the enterprise work it is advisable to do as effectively. These advantages circulation over into each space of life. However while you’re on this behavior of leaping from one objective to the subsequent to the subsequent, and that is frequent goal-setting recommendation, set reasonable targets. And we’re going to on this episode, why I don’t agree with that. Let’s set reasonable targets is what we’re informed. And likewise to have a objective for each space of your life. So set three targets, set seven targets, like there are, , individuals train these, what do they name a circle factor that has all these totally different items of the pie to your life, a circle, a life wheel, one thing like that? Anyway, it’ll have like relationships, spirituality, well being, psychological well being, enterprise, Profession, no matter it’s, all these various things, say have a objective in each space. We love that. As a result of we get to really feel once more, it’s like that lottery ticket, what if, what if, what if, after which anytime we get uncomfortable, we get to leap between issues. And that could be a type of quitting. We don’t acknowledge it as that we predict, Oh, no, I simply had this nice thought. However usually my quitting on the thought we had. And a whole lot of occasions you received’t even dedicated to that within the first place. We actually need to be setting targets as perfectionist in a approach that really provides you that chance to commit.

However we’re actually creating this with procrasti-planning we’re creating this concept that we ought to be additional alongside. And that basically stops us from being additional alongside. Additionally, once we’re procrasti-planning, as I discussed, it destroys self-trust fairly than constructing it, which makes it more durable to deal with failure to make choices to observe via with our plans. And it will definitely results in not desirous to plan in any respect, due to the way in which that procrasti-planning. And following recommendation. It doesn’t work for perfectionist. That destroys self belief a lot that we predict what’s the level, why even hassle, I’m not even going to do any of this anyway. And also you may know like, you may have a historical past of being an important planner, in relation to your job, maybe the place you may have a boss, who you might be in the end reporting to, or possibly you handle different individuals and you may plan in that context. However in relation to simply me, myself and I when it’s you planning for your self and your targets and your enterprise. And generally which may imply disappointing others and what requests others have of you all through the day, or all through the week, when which may imply you’re not in a position to people-please and do all of the issues to maintain everybody completely satisfied. And such as you like it may be actually confronting for that, for that to be taking place. And so we love being on this, procrasti-planning, however then we find yourself in a state of affairs the place we simply determine why even hassle. I’m simply going to wing it.

And sometimes this can appear like saying issues like, what, I simply don’t like I’ve been placing all this stress on myself. I simply don’t need to put any stress on myself anymore. And I’m simply gonna, , have this actually easy checklist of issues. And I’m simply gonna give attention to doing that and letting that be sufficient. And there’s a lot nuance to this, I in all probability don’t have time to enter all of it. However that’s one other approach we give up and in energy planning for instance, once we’re utilizing that we’re form to ourselves, we don’t burn out, we’re in a position to discover procrastination and do one thing about it and do it in the best approach, not having to delete the Instagram app or doing issues like that. And we acknowledge that it’s our mind that’s pondering pressuring ideas. It’s not the plans which might be making us really feel pressured. And so what can occur, and I’ve seen this in PGSD as effectively, when PGSDer will say, , what, I simply don’t need the stress of this not possible objective, I simply don’t need the stress of those plans. So I’m simply gonna wing it and drift. However that isn’t useful, both.

We need to be self-compassionate in a approach that really works. That helps us have a greater relationship with ourselves. Once we are being “self-compassionate”, in a approach, that’s truly ignoring ourselves, dismissing what we’re right here to do and what we’re able to. It doesn’t assist us construct self-trust. And we solely additional proof that we aren’t as succesful as we thought we had been. So we need to actually have productiveness being an act of self-care. And sometimes self care will likely be an act of productiveness, doing one thing that you simply don’t need to do. As a result of that it’s in your individual greatest curiosity. And that’s why with energy planning, you make the plans, we regularly could be a bitch to ourselves, we are going to make plans that if somebody gave them to us, we’d suppose like, do you even know that I must sleep and eat and do all these different issues, we try this to ourselves, simply because we haven’t realized how you can plan correctly as a perfectionist. And so if that’s taking place, while you cease energy planning, so we try this for 3 months, and doubtless the primary few weeks, you’ll plan in the way in which that you simply’ve at all times deliberate earlier than. And also you’re going to really feel such as you’re not in a position to observe via in your plans. And there’s a whole lot of stress. However that’s simply since you’re over planning, or beneath planning or each. And with the assistance of that planning technique, you’re going to have the ability to discover that and get teaching and get assist and truly do one thing about it.

And that’s why we’ve that three month dedication. However once we are on this mindset that, effectively, if planning isn’t working for me, then I ought to simply not plan in any respect and wing it and go together with a circulation, then we’re actually denying ourselves such a chance for development. And such a chance for actually simply having that stable relationship with ourselves. It makes me consider, say, for instance, in case you are desirous to drop a few pounds, and it is advisable to change the way in which you’re consuming with the intention to try this, that you simply may suppose, Okay, I’m going to observe this actually, actually strict weight loss plan. And then you definately, , you set that up in a approach that wasn’t sustainable. So after all, you’re not in a position to maintain it. And then you definately’re like, effectively, that was too strict. And I’m simply gonna be taught to , love myself, no matter I eat, and all of that. And I’m all for intuitive consuming. However there’s a distinction between that and ignoring your self. That’s not what intuitive consuming is intuitive consuming is being in tune with your self. Not ignoring your self, and your emotions and your relationship with your self.

The identical with energy planning, we’re doing it in a approach that’s self compassionate, and being tuned in as a substitute of being tuned out. And ignoring the expansion and the work that there’s for us to do. So that’s the reason procrasti planning is an issue. We went into {that a} bit. However let’s discuss how you can plan correctly as perfectionist. And this truly units up the subsequent episode actually properly, as a result of I will likely be going into the three steps of energy planning.

So I’m simply going to offer you a really temporary overview on this episode, we’re gonna go into it in additional element within the subsequent one. So step one is the facility hour. So in your weekly Energy Hour, you’ll put your needle-moving duties into your digital calendar. And also you’ll create contingency plans that make it simple to get every thing executed with out feeling overwhelmed. So that you don’t know precisely which duties to do now, which duties depart for the long run, and you’ll begin feeling begin the week feeling on high of your enterprise, even in case you have a full-time job, otherwise you’re elevating kids or there’s any type of uncertainty in your week.

The second step is little tweaks. So each day you spend a bit little bit of time tweaking your calendar so you will get every thing executed with out falling behind with out burning out. Even when one thing surprising comes up. And also you’ll know when altering your plans is self-sabotage and when it’s the correct factor to do. That is one thing that’s actually essential as a result of we really feel like every thing is essential. So when you’ll be able to actually begin to see okay, what do I must prioritize and depart for later. And within the second all through the week, you’ll be able to say okay, me altering the plan proper now’s self-sabotage, or me altering the plan proper now’s really an act of self-compassion and is actually in my very own greatest pursuits.

That makes such a giant distinction in relation to following via displaying up absolutely all these issues, then the third step is a weekly evaluation. So on the finish of the week, you’ll do a short weekly evaluation, to actually replicate and uncover what labored, what didn’t work and what to do in another way. In order that subsequent week’s plans is even simpler to observe. So listed here are a number of the key parts of planning correctly, there’s a time restrict in your planning session. So that you don’t spend a complete day planning out per week.

Now, while you begin energy planning, it’d take you greater than the 60 minutes, it’d take you possibly 90 minutes as you’re studying that. However you need to have a time restrict in your planning session. You’re additionally not over planning or beneath planning, while you’re planning correctly as a perfectionist. So over planning seems like placing an excessive amount of in your plates. We love to do that. That is once more, like that lottery ticket, the hope of being productive has such a pull to it, that we put a lot on our plate. However by doing that, we’re truly setting ourselves as much as fail, and setting ourselves as much as really feel unhealthy.

A part of the explanation for that’s we’re so used to feeling unhealthy and feeling behind and feeling overwhelmed however that’s regular for us. So we type of recreate that and that signal that planning correctly will allow you to to get out of out of this dependancy to feeling behind and this dependancy to feeling overwhelmed. Whereby these beneath planning, which we regularly do after over planning that they’ll generally type of go on on the similar time, which is having plans which might be too obscure.

So the recommendation I discussed earlier than, about having these 4 or 5 priorities and that type of factor, while you try this, you’re going to finish up over planning and placing an excessive amount of in your plate in all probability as a result of these 4 or 5 priorities relying what they’re, may take extra time than you may have within the week, otherwise you’re subconsciously and even consciously pondering, effectively, these are my priorities, however I ought to have the ability to do every thing. And then you definately’re beneath planning by having plans which might be too obscure. So it’s like work on this venture, write posts for Instagram, or no matter, that’s not truly very clear about what it is advisable to do, and the way you’ll let you know’re executed.

So one other essential a part of planning correctly is price correcting through the week, so that you don’t fall behind. So that is maintaining your plans workable. As an alternative of simply type of throwing them out the window, the second you don’t observe via or if , you observe via completely for a few days, and then you definately begin falling behind. After which the checklist of unfinished duties is simply so lengthy, you’re like, No, I’m simply gonna begin over as a result of I really feel so behind. I really feel so harassed, I really feel a lot stress.

Having a framework that means that you can work out when to vary your plans and when to observe via with the plans that you simply made through the energy hour, that’s actually essential a part of planning correctly. Additionally planning to your unmotivated self, fairly than your ultimate self. In order that even in the event you’re not motivated, you’re in a position to observe via with them. Quite than planning as in case you have this limitless quantity of motivation. After which feeling confused, while you get to the time of doing the duty, and like, huh I don’t really feel prefer it. Oh, that should imply I shouldn’t do it. As a result of so many people interpret resistance as like this sign from the universe, that it’s not in alignment with us. And we shouldn’t do it. When so usually, it’s only a signal that we’re gonna develop. And we’re not used to really simply being with that feeling and dealing via it.

That is usually why we depart issues till the final minute as a result of we haven’t practiced how you can be with that resistance and simply maintain working. We find yourself needing to have that, , last-minute rush. As a result of once we watched the final minute we inform ourselves the story of effectively, it’s on the final minute, so if I don’t do in addition to I need, however like we will blame the final minute, we don’t say ourselves that to ourselves consciously. However in the event you and possibly did this at school, I positively did. I left every thing to the final minute had this complete story that I do my greatest work on the final minute. After which if I didn’t do effectively, I often did although, and it type of bolstered the entire thing. And the very fact was I simply hadn’t even skilled my greatest work, however I assumed I did my greatest work beneath stress. And so I used to be like, Okay, effectively, I might have executed even higher if I didn’t depart it to the final minute acquired to really feel further good. After which if I didn’t do in addition to I need to I might say effectively, , I did depart it to the final minute. And we have to get out of that in relation to enterprise as a result of there’s no final minute. And even when there’s a final minute when it comes to possibly doing a promotion or one thing like that, the place there’s a time you’ve publicly introduced it’s not sustainable, it’s not pleasing. And it’s one type of getting in your individual approach.

And like in PGSD, we assist people who find themselves dedicated to get out of their very own approach and who’ve been via that and are prepared for one thing else. So we need to have you ever planning in a approach that really makes it simple to observe via even in the event you’re not motivated. Clear relaxation. I’ve talked about on this on the podcast already. Resting with out guilt. That’s such an essential a part of planning. You must plan that. In the event you’re a perfectionist, you’re not going to need to relaxation. You’re going to need to relaxation in a leftover time, which by no means occurs, as a result of there’s at all times one thing extra to do. So clear relaxation is a very essential half having a transparent objective in thoughts, so what’s essential and what isn’t like that’s your North Star.

That’s how you determine what the needle movers are. That’s how you determine whether or not you must simply relaxation or you must push via, or no matter that appears like. That’s, that’s a part of it. Additionally planning in a approach that permits you to really feel a way of accomplishment each single day, even when there’s nonetheless extra issues to do. That’s such an essential piece of the puzzle. And that recommendation I shared earlier about, , your 4 or 5 priorities, and, , spotlight them or no matter it’s, after which simply work on them. You’re not going to really feel achieved, since you haven’t determined what completion seems like. You haven’t determined what success seems like. It’s simply this obscure, get every thing executed type of factor. So I’ve stated loads. I hope this has been useful. If it has, please take a screenshot and tag me on Instagram, I’m @perfectionismproject. So the subsequent a part of the collection will likely be going into extra element across the energy planning technique, how that works, why it really works, and all that good things.

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I hope you loved that episode within the planning collection, I need to invite you into Perfectionist Getting Shit Carried out so you will get out of your individual approach in your enterprise and get your enterprise off the bottom. In the event you wrestle with displaying up constantly, in the event you wrestle with procrastination, with overthinking, with burnout, with overwhelm, with having a tough time making choices. PGSD is for you. We’re doing presently our final enrollment for the 12 months. So the doorways are closing at 11:59pm jap time this Friday, the twenty first of November. So to affix us inside, go to samlaurabrown.com/pgsd, at this time.