An Introduction to Clear Relaxation + Why It is Important For Perfectionists [Part 1: Clean Rest Series]

Should you’re sick of being behind in your corporation (regardless that you’re doing ALL the issues), this episode is for you.

I clarify what clear relaxation is (i.e. resting with out guilt) and why it’s important for perfectionists. 

It might not really feel prefer it, however clear relaxation will allow you to work higher and construct a greater enterprise (with much less overwhelm, much less procrastination and fewer burnout).

You’ll have loads of clear relaxation scheduled in your calendar while you’re planning correctly as a perfectionist.

All that clear relaxation received’t be scary since you’ll be so clear on what’s vital vs what isn’t, while you work finest and easy methods to hold your plans workable so that you by no means fall behind. You’ll have the ability to ENJOY your day without work.

It’s time to begin planning correctly as a perfectionist – and that features getting the clear relaxation you want. And anybody can find out how…

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Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out is opening for enrollment on 4 April for one week solely.

Should you’re able to get out of your personal means in your corporation, you wish to be part of my productiveness program for perfectionists who’re constructing companies known as Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out. Click on right here to search out out extra about this system and be part of the waitlist right now: samlaurabrown.com/pgsd. Enrollment is opening for one week solely from 4 to 11 April 2025.

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Introduction

Hello, and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Challenge. A podcast stuffed with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My identify is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake, to allow them to get out of their very own means and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the perfectionist getting shit finished group teaching program, which is in any other case referred to as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that will help you with your corporation, you’ll be able to observe me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.

Sam Laura Brown

Welcome to what’s the first episode on this 5 half sequence all about clear relaxation, I’ve been getting so many requests to enter extra element about clear relaxation, and what it’s how goes that will help you launch your perfectionism handbrake, the place it suits in by way of planning correctly as a perfectionist, like what it seems to be like in your energy planning, easy methods to get extra of it, easy methods to really feel secure doing it, what it’s wish to really feel resistance to it, and easy methods to overcome that resistance. And simply all of the issues about clear relaxation. So I’m actually excited to be bringing this sequence to you.

So that you’ve got quite a lot of the important thing ideas relating to wash relaxation multi function place, as a way to begin getting extra clear relaxation, which goes that will help you get out of your personal means, it’s going to make it simpler to be extra brave in your corporation and to attain your objectives. It’s going to have you ever having fun with the journey, it’s going to have you ever be extra current in your private life. And truly feeling like you might have a life exterior of your corporation that you simply love. It’s going to cease you from burning on the market are simply so many advantages to wash relaxation, we’re going to be going into that on this sequence.

And I additionally wish to ensure you know that you’re invited to affix us inside perfectionist getting shit finished, which is the place you’ll be able to observe clear relaxation and actually grasp it. This actually is about not simply intellectually understanding the idea of fresh relaxation, which is resting with out guilt, it’s intentional non enterprise time, we get that I’m positive you already intellectually perceive what it’s simply from me sharing that in the event you weren’t aware of it earlier than. However what does it seem like to truly get clear relaxation and to actually expertise the advantages of it that comes with observe.

And I wish to invite you into PGSD. So you’ll be able to observe that with us. Notably if burnout is one thing you actually wrestle with in case you have a motivation drawback. And you’re discovering it laborious to search out the vitality and the psychological energy to do what it’s that it’s essential do. And in the event you really feel such as you’re all the time working, however you’re by no means getting every thing finished. And also you’re all the time behind that I actually wish to invite you in.

So the doorways to PGSD might be opening at 6am New York time on the 4th of April. Enrollment for PGSD might be open for one week. And I wish to invite you in and particularly in the event you discover this clear relaxation sequence useful. When you have been having fun with the podcast if you realize you’re a perfectionist, you’re able to get out of your personal means in your corporation.

And also you actually need someplace to be supported whilst you do that work and to take it to that deeper stage and never simply intellectually perceive what it’s that I discuss on the podcast, however to be dwelling and respiration that that’s what we do inside PGSD. And we’d like to have you ever be part of us. So you will discover out extra about PGSD. Should you’re not already on the waitlist, I encourage you to enroll at samlaurabrown.com/pgsd. The hyperlink within the present notes is the place you’ll be able to be part of the waitlist. And as soon as the doorways are open, that can be the place you’ll be able to join.

So if you wish to discover out extra about this system as nicely, you’re not likely positive what it’s go to that web site and you’ll find extra particulars there. So earlier than I get into the majority of this episode, which goes to be actually concerning the idea usually of fresh relaxation, and the way I developed that, why it happened what that appears like what meaning. I simply wish to share the place clear relaxation suits in, by way of releasing your perfectionism handbrake moving into development mindset.

So let’s simply do a fast recap of perfectionism releasing that handbrake get into the expansion mindset, like what meaning. And that’s gonna give us a context to speak about clear relaxation, as a result of it’s actually vital to know that, sure, it’s nice to have stability, quote, unquote, and to get relaxation and to not burn out. However how does this slot in particularly, with you getting out of your personal means and along with your perfectionism journey?

That’s what I wish to ensure you know. So if we take into consideration perfectionism, perfectionism is a method to keep away from disgrace. Perfectionist aren’t good individuals, perfectionist of people that really feel ashamed that they aren’t good. After we really feel ashamed that we’re not good. We are inclined to concentrate on avoiding imperfection. So this manifests sometimes in 5 methods. So the indicators of perfectionism the 5 indicators are overwhelmed, procrastination, burnouts, all or nothing considering and concern of judgment.

There’s nothing mistaken with being a perfectionist. It’s not poisonous. It’s not a flaw. It’s none of these issues, it’s only a set of beliefs, and our perfectionist tendencies as having all these totally different ways in which we withhold effort as a result of we predict effort is an indication of inadequacy. So we don’t wish to be seen or have ourselves see that we’re placing in a full effort as a result of it feels so susceptible, to offer it our all and to probably discover out that our greatest wasn’t ok.

So we’re doing all these various things to keep away from exhibiting up totally therefore, the overwhelm, the procrastination, burnout, all or nothing considering, the concern of judgment, these are simply methods that we use to guard ourselves as a result of it doesn’t really feel secure to indicate up imperfectly, however all of these tendencies, are simply coming from the ideas that we’re having right now. And sure, we would have had a few of these perfectionist ideas as kids, and so they positively served us as kids. That’s the reason our mind has these ideas, as a result of they work in a sure setting. However now as adults, and particularly having a enterprise, they don’t serve us anymore.

And it’s so useful to know that perfectionism these tendencies, that perfectionism handbrake, it’s simply coming from the ideas that you’re having right now. And you’ll be able to change these ideas. And if we focus as an alternative, on not being a perfectionist, we concentrate on moving into the expansion of mindset that’s going to show releasing your perfectionism handbrake from one thing that seems like a pleasant factor to do. And all of those mentors about finished is healthier than good. From that into one thing sensible, tangible, actionable, and you realize, the place to focus your vitality, and you realize what it’s essential be doing along with your time.

In order that’s what we do in PGSD, we use the PGSD course of to get right into a development mindset. Only a fast recap, as nicely on the expansion mindset. So after we’re within the development mindsets, we’re actually dwelling from that place of it’s higher to have tried and failed than to have by no means tried in any respect. After we’re within the development mindset, we’re brave, experimental, we’re actually desirous about issues in a means that we are able to enhance upon our abilities, and talents with observe and energy.

So we’re actually seeing effort as one thing that’s worthwhile, and that it’s price placing effort into issues, even when they’re not going to work immediately, as a result of we’re growing our talent set. After we are within the perfectionist mindset, which could in any other case be known as the mounted mindset. That’s after we consider that our skills, our talents, our intelligence our repair, and that they’ll’t be modified. And subsequently that creates an expertise. And we have now that perception set, that every thing we do is proof of whether or not or not we’re ok.

And that makes us wish to shield our potential and do issues that we’re solely going to be good at. So that is once more, the place the avoiding imperfection is available in like sure, quite a lot of perfectionism is about wanting issues to be good. However that tends to manifest as not doing something in any respect, as a result of we are able to’t have issues be good, and we wish to keep away from imperfection. That’s actually quite a lot of what it’s about. So if we take into consideration the expansion mindset, once more, it’s only a set of beliefs, we’re capable of have these beliefs, we don’t have to be in these beliefs on a regular basis. With a purpose to get out of our personal means.

We simply have to have these ideas and emotions extra typically. That the PGSD course of is the sensible option to get your self into the expansion mindset. So that’s damaged down into three steps. That is what we do inside PGSD. So plan correctly as a perfectionist that entails setting your development purpose and utilizing energy planning, clear relaxation as nicely. If you end up doing all your energy planning you’re placing your clear relaxation in your calendar. I’ll discuss that extra partially, which half is it? Half three of this sequence, episode 346. I might be speaking about planning out your clear relaxation and what that appears like particularly.

So once more, the first step, the PGSD course of is the method for making a development mindset. Plan correctly as a perfectionist to get your perfectionist mindset in your facet create plans which are straightforward to observe via on. Observe via along with your plans. 80% of the time. Zero procrastination will not be the purpose we’re aiming for 80% observe via. That’s greater than sufficient. We relaxation with out guilt. That’s the third step, clear relaxation, relaxation with out guilt and repeat. After we are in that course of, plan correctly, observe via 80% of the time, relaxation with out guilt and repeat. That’s how we create a development mindset.

And after we are in a development mindset, we’re capable of expertise the success that we wish to in our enterprise and really benefit from the journey and achieve success in our enterprise with out it which means one thing about us which is why we have now a lot braveness and keen to experiment and keen to do issues which may not work as a result of we’re capable of not have our self price twisted up within the success or in any other case, of our enterprise, that’s an unbelievable factor. So that’s the PGSD course of and clear relaxation, resting with out guilt is a 3rd step in that course of. This course of, as I stated, it’s relaxation with out guilt and repeat.

So that is one thing that we’re working via. Like once more, and once more, if that is sensible. So that you’re going to be planning correctly, each week, you’ve received your development purpose, which is a 12 month purpose, doing all your energy planning each week, then all through the week, you’re following via 80% of the time, and also you’re resting with out guilt. So let’s discuss what’s clear relaxation? I’m going to have my poor self inform you about it. As a result of and that is such a phenomenal factor. And I like how after I do these sequence, my work behind the scenes all the time aligned with what this sequence is about. So I recorded an episode on easy methods to relaxation with out feeling responsible in April 2019.

And so what I used to be desirous about was, nicely perhaps previous me who’s already stated lots about clear relaxation, perhaps I might deliver that to this sequence, and share a better of one of the best episode within the sense that I’m going to be sharing with you ideas round clear relaxation. And I believe notably as nicely, listening to previous me discuss, it’s gonna be so useful, as a result of on the time that I recorded that episode, I used to be working in a component time job, and I used to be simply in a special state of affairs by way of my life, then than I’m now. And so that you’re gonna get to listen to from each like hear from me earlier than I went full time on my enterprise, about clear relaxation. And in addition imply now I’m full time in my enterprise and have been since July 2019.

Hear what it’s like for me now and within the fifth half on this sequence, I’m going to speak about what I rise up to after I’m taking clear relaxation and the way my clear relaxation observe has developed and all of that. However I believed what higher option to honor my clear relaxation and the way a lot capability I’ve to get my work finished. And to have you might have an extremely useful episode is that I’m going to share that episode with you that I recorded in 2019. So that is going to actually allow you to get an understanding for what clear relaxation is. And simply to actually underline as a result of I don’t know if I discussed it this manner in that episode. Clear relaxation is that’s after we’re resting with out guilt.

And I need you to particularly simply be desirous about clear relaxation as intentional non enterprise time, it’s time that you’ve got determined, you aren’t allowed to work on your corporation. As a result of while you hear about clear relaxation, it’s resting with out guilt, and also you may be considering, nicely, I’m resting, however I don’t know if I do really feel responsible, or I positively do really feel responsible. So is that clear relaxation? What counts, what doesn’t depend? And we’re going to be protecting that as nicely within the fourth a part of this sequence. What counts what doesn’t.

However what I need you to be desirous about is as an alternative of getting twisted up on this query of is it clear relaxation if I really feel a bit responsible? To consider clear relaxation is a time that you’ve got determined will not be allowed for enterprise work, that you are able to do no matter, however you’re not doing enterprise stuff. And by taking that chance to work on your corporation off the desk, it’s going to make it a lot simpler to not really feel responsible, as a result of we have now this thought that what I must be engaged on my enterprise. And the great thing about enterprise is you’ll be able to work on it everytime you need.

And in addition if we don’t discover ways to draw a line within the sand for ourselves, then we really feel like we must be engaged on it on a regular basis. And clear relaxation is without doubt one of the ways in which you’ll be able to give your self a psychological reprieve from that chatter and to simply be like No, I shouldn’t be engaged on my enterprise proper now as a result of it’s clear relaxation time. And I’m not allowed to and so I need you to simply take into consideration clear relaxation, that’s time you’re deciding is a no go for enterprise stuff. And with that in thoughts, I’ll now introduce you to that episode. I hope you discover it extremely useful.

Right now I wish to chat to you about easy methods to relaxation with out feeling responsible. Productiveness is such an enormous factor for perfectionist. We wish to really feel like no second goes to waste, and but, we procrastinate a fuck ton. So on this episode, I’m going to be speaking about easy methods to relaxation with out guilt. And in addition simply actually getting you to see that having each second of the day open for productiveness is definitely stopping you from being as productive as you may be.

For me, what actually received me into this place the place I’ve been keen to relaxation has been actually getting that I’m a lot extra productive. I’m a lot extra enthusiastic about life, after I truly give myself a possibility to relaxation. That is one thing that I discuss to, like principally all of my one on one teaching shoppers about we work on this sooner or later.

And in all my programs, we talked about this, it’s such an enormous a part of rising out of perfectionism, having the ability to truly schedule in time, to be unproductive to relaxation to have downtime, and to not really feel responsible. A whole lot of perfectionist wish to be productive on a regular basis, after which marvel why it’s that they’re procrastinating on Netflix. However then it doesn’t even really feel good to observe Netflix since you simply really feel responsible, that you simply’re not finding out otherwise you’re not beginning your corporation otherwise you’re not doing no matter it was you promised your self that you’d do.

So this episode is for you in the event you can relate to any of that. And that was once me, I’m actually like with each different podcast episode speaking from expertise, as a result of this was such an enormous wrestle for me. Beforehand, and solely within the final yr, I’d say, Have I been actually keen to see how my life would look if I did permit myself to relaxation with out guilt and to have that downtime and to actually check out like the place is that this have to be productive truly coming from and seeing that it wasn’t coming from one of the best place.

And I assume that’s the place I wish to begin is perfectionist actually wish to be productive 24/7 as a result of it’s coming from this place of inadequacy, we consider that we’re not ok. And so we’re making an attempt to compensate for that by doing extra. It’s actually this perception. If I do greater than I’ll be extra. It’s why perfectionist love planners, love being organized, however then on the similar time, actually struggled to observe via a part of that’s self sabotage, which I received’t be speaking about on this episode.

And when you might have your aware wishes being contradicted by your unconscious wishes. And normally that’s the unconscious want to keep away from disgrace, is the one which retains us actually caught. However on this episode, I’m going to be speaking about additionally the function that relaxation performs in productiveness and attaining your objectives and when to truly relaxation and easy methods to even have relaxation with out guilt and easy methods to know when it’s only a cop out. As a result of quite a lot of us use that excuse I deserve a break regardless that we don’t actually deserve a break.

Like we’re simply saying that in order that we have now an excuse to not observe via on the factor that we had promised ourselves, we’d do. It’s like this tremendous sneaky means that we simply let ourselves off the hook. We are saying I need to relaxation after which we really feel responsible after we’re resting. After which after we return to doing the factor it’s we’re meant to be doing. We really feel like we’re behind after which we simply find yourself on this self pity cycle. I’ve finished an episode on that it’s episode 84. I’ll hyperlink it for you within the present notes. I extremely suggest listening to that one in the event you can relate to what I share on this episode.

However for me, I used to consider that I wanted to be productive all of the rattling time. Like I didn’t desire a second of the day to not be productive. It felt like a waste of time if I wasn’t doing one thing productive. Even like I used to really feel responsible and horrible after I was doing meal prep as an alternative of engaged on my weblog. Even when I simply be doing busy work on my weblog. I felt like so insufficient round it that I actually had this perception I would like each second I can and I used to be doing meal prep one thing that might profit me all through your complete week and I simply noticed that as a burden.

In the direction of, like a burden that was stopping me from attaining my purpose of being profitable with my weblog. And it was not enjoyable to be resenting the entire duties that had been truly in my finest curiosity. And it wasn’t enjoyable to by no means truly have the ability to relaxation and get well and recognize myself and really feel pleased with myself. And I used to be simply continuously feeling like I used to be by no means doing sufficient. And since I felt like I used to be by no means doing sufficient, that simply made me procrastinate. As a result of I believed, nicely, it’s not going to make a distinction. I’m by no means gonna have the ability to do sufficient anyway. And so I’d be on social media, I’d be watching YouTube movies, once more, telling myself like, I deserve just a little break.

And I’m simply gonna get myself feeling impressed, and protecting it up that means. So it sort of felt like what I’d name productive procrastination. And once more, it’s why so many perfectionist such as you might need discovered me via Pinterest or someplace like that, since you wish to really feel productive on a regular basis. However nobody may be productive 24/7 and in addition the stress to be productive 24/7 is basically crippling. So quite a lot of perfectionist get actually good at productive procrastination, you may be researching and gathering issues on a regular basis on Pinterest.

Or perhaps you’re continuously consuming issues and telling your self it’s essential study only one other thing earlier than you may be prepared to begin. So if that’s you, I get it. And with my weblog, like a very within the early days after I wasn’t actually telling anybody about it. And I nonetheless felt like I wasn’t ok to be doing it and had quite a lot of embarrassment and disgrace round it. As a result of I simply thought like who am I to be sharing stuff.

And I don’t even know sufficient to be sharing something. And like all of the doubt, all of the worst stuff you’ve ever thought of your self. That’s what I used to be desirous about myself throughout that interval. And I had this new, I’ve received to be productive on a regular basis. And for me that simply regarded like quite a lot of sitting in entrance of my laptop and being productive as in I used to be like, If anybody checked out me, it could seem like I’m working. However as a result of I haven’t had correct relaxation, my mind is working extra slowly than it could possibly be.

I’m additionally procrastinating and selecting up my cellphone and taking a look at issues. And particularly, I’m doing duties that don’t even have to be finished. I was like spending hours and hours on Pinterest graphics. I’d be modifying weblog put up that had already been printed. And even these days, I needed to like catch myself with busy work. And I believe continuously prefer it’s one thing that quite a lot of us do, as a result of it feels extra comfy to be productive, like busy work.

Work for work sake is productive procrastination. And so I observed what I used to be doing was I used to be doing the precise duties. I used to be recording podcast episodes. I’ve spoken about this on a earlier episode, however I used to be recording podcast episodes, writing my e-mail publication, like doing all of the issues that weren’t busy work. However the way in which I used to be doing them took up extra of my time than if I batch them collectively. And I used to batch issues collectively, which I’m at the moment doing proper now.

So I’ve recorded three podcast episodes right now. That is the third and remaining one for right now. However earlier than I used to be recording them the day earlier than I wanted to publish them. And I did this for perhaps like I wish to say like 20 or 30 episodes, I used to be doing them proper earlier than. So it could take me longer as a result of I wanted to get my podcast set stuff arrange. I’d have to be at house.

So I couldn’t go to the co working area that day. I would like to think about a subject principally it was sluggish and clunky. As a result of I needed to do each individually. So busy work won’t even be engaged on a activity that isn’t vital. It may be engaged on a activity that’s vital in a extra time intensive overcomplicated sort of means. as nicely. One of many beliefs that had me doing that was not wanting issues to be too straightforward.

As a result of if issues had been straightforward, then I wouldn’t really feel like I deserve success. And that’s simply previous programming this perception that you must work laborious to be deserving. And that’s one thing I’ve been engaged on rewiring and simply actually getting that like for me to be essentially the most profitable I may be I truly have to be spending time within the duties which are best for me like teaching and recording podcast episodes, and never overcomplicating issues like letting it’s straightforward by batching issues and being organized and planning and following via.

So simply wished to say there’s apparent procrastination like Netflix, there may be productive procrastination and busy work, like Pinterest, doing analysis, notably in the event you’ve been researching one thing for greater than an hour, such as you’re nicely into the productive procrastination at that time, it doesn’t actually take lengthy to search out ample data to get began. But additionally, you may simply be doing issues which are vital, however you’re doing them in a very sloppy, haphazard final minute sort of means.

And that’s filling up your time, so that you simply get to really feel productive on a regular basis, with out truly actually doing issues in one of the simplest ways potential. So I actually need you to see that, I’d say 99% of the time, perfectionist wish to be productive. And like a very large purpose like one thing in the event you’re on Pinterest you may be researching is easy methods to be productive, easy methods to keep motivated, that sort of line of considering. However you then procrastinate.

And regardless that you might have these actually nice intentions with productiveness, you aren’t capable of observe via, you begin stuff you don’t end, and also you simply go down the rabbit gap shiny object syndrome, you might have all of those concepts, and also you inform your self nicely, yeah, you realize, I wouldn’t have such an issue if I didn’t have all these nice concepts, which I hear lots of people say, and folks like most individuals have quite a lot of concepts. And I actually consider that that isn’t a burden. It’s simply one thing to study, okay, nicely, I’m going to have quite a lot of concepts, I simply want to verify I don’t try to observe via on them and use that as an excuse.

I might go on and on about that facet of issues, and all of the totally different ways in which we self sabotage. However what I actually simply wished to get out is that after we’re making an attempt to be productive 24/7, we’re truly not productive in any respect. And sometimes, we’re much less productive than if we had half the time for something. Like, even when it’s for cleansing for doing life admin stuff, in the event you resolve to do it, and also you’re very intentional about it, and also you simply get it finished. It’s a lot faster, that after we method life, on this, I’ve received to be productive frenzy. And we aren’t capable of truly be centered, do one factor at a time, get it finished, transfer on to the following factor.

And so for me, I actually was once coming from this place of inadequacy. And there was quite a lot of concern round not being productive, that if I wasn’t attaining my arbitrary objectives that I’d made for myself, if I wasn’t busy on a regular basis, perfectionist love feeling busy one other means that we get in our personal methods by placing like 50 commitments on our plate, in order that if we fail at considered one of them, we by no means must really feel that full drive of the failure as a result of we are able to say, I used to be so busy with all of those different issues.

That yeah, I didn’t do as nicely my enterprise as a result of I’m actually making an attempt to concentrate on this relationship. And that relationship isn’t going nearly as good because it might as a result of I’m on the health club on a regular basis. Nonetheless, that appears for you. However I had this actual concern of what would occur if I wasn’t capable of be productive. And that’s sort of like the place the guilt got here in.

And this concept that if I’m not productive on a regular basis, there’s no means I may be profitable. And if I’m not profitable, then I’m gonna really feel ashamed of myself. And it was not enjoyable. And even after I was doing nicely, productiveness clever, which was uncommon. It nonetheless wasn’t enjoyable, as a result of nothing was ever sufficient and perfectionist by no means really feel ok, it doesn’t matter what they achieved. It’s the rationale I educate easy methods to get right into a development mindset. And episode 100 was concerning the 5 largest errors perfectionist make with mindset, with the expansion mindset.

So in the event you haven’t listened to that, ensure you hearken to that one after this as nicely, I believe you’ll discover it actually useful. However it might probably actually simply come from this place of inadequacy and this concern that if I cease being as productive, then I received’t achieve success. However once more, when we have now that stress to be productive 24/7 we simply find yourself procrastinating and doing busy work and never truly dwelling as much as our potential anyway. What I’m making an attempt to say is to let go of this have to be productive 24/7, you’re not truly letting go of a large amount of productiveness, you’ve in all probability simply been busy with out truly creating that many ends in your life.

So what I did have finished for the final two weeks, for the primary week, I used to be in Bali on the manifestation babe retreat, and I discuss extra about that in episode 99. After which after I received house I had per week off my enterprise I used to be nonetheless going to my half time job within the afternoons from 4pm to 8pm. However in addition to that I used to be simply doing house tasks hanging out with Steve, chilling, doing no matter. And earlier than that might have freaked the shit out of me as a result of I wanted to have each second I might on my enterprise would fail.

However within the final yr or so I’ve actually began experimenting with having day without work, honoring my day without work and actually seeing that as being a very productive factor that I can do. And in the event you’ve listened to this podcast for some time, you’ll have heard me discuss totally different iterations I’ve gone via with this. For quarter two of this yr, I’m having Saturdays as my time off, even when it’s the craziest week in my enterprise, I’ve Saturday’s off. Meaning no running a blog, no podcasting, no teaching shoppers, no Instagram posts, no e-mail, nothing, nothing on a Saturday.

And that makes me be a lot extra productive with my time beforehand, like within the first quarter of this yr. And at first of this yr, I actually reinstated my time off as a result of I gotten sloppy with it. After which I observed that I simply was feeling like, not as enthusiastic about issues as a result of there was no downtime, there was no finish in sight. And regardless that I like my enterprise, like my mind wants a second to get well.

And regardless that my time off, I take into consideration my enterprise all day anyway, like, that’s simply what my mind like desirous about. I nonetheless want a second to love, be me exterior of my enterprise to actually see that I’m worthwhile, no matter how a lot cash I’m making, what number of followers I’ve, how many individuals on my e-mail listing, what number of DMS I’m getting like none of that truly actually says something about me.

And it’s so highly effective to have time the place you’ll be able to create an identification for your self. That’s not associated to the outcomes that you simply’re attaining in your life. And I used to be seeing that basically like my enterprise and me would really like the identical factor. And I didn’t have that identification. And I didn’t know what I preferred to do exterior of enterprise. And sure, like, it’s nice that I like my enterprise. However I have to produce other issues that I like doing. I have to have greater than that.

In order that I don’t have my like, I’m not then hooked on to how the enterprise goes by way of my very own self worth and my very own identification. I have to be Sam after which sure, I’m right here on the podcast as Sam Laura Brown. However I simply have to be simply plain previous Sam only for me doing issues that don’t get documented and don’t get shared. And nobody is aware of about like, I simply have to have part of me that’s only for me and have that point to discover like What else am I keen on? What else may I wish to pursue? So I reinstated that for the primary quarter of this yr, I had Sunday off, which was actually good. However Steve works each single Sunday.

And so I by no means received to hang around with him on my time off. So now it’s Saturday as a result of he has each second Saturday off in the event you don’t know what Steve does, he’s a paramedic and an emergency nurse. He has two totally different jobs. So he works as a paramedic on the weekends. And I’d like to see him on a few of my days off. So and simply have a sleeping collectively and simply chill. In order that’s why my time off now’s Saturday for this quarter. I’m simply experimenting with it. And we’ll see the way it goes and the way it suits in with every thing. And I’m all the time open to altering that sooner or later.

Anyway, have I made a degree but on this podcast episode? I’m unsure. However what I’m making an attempt to say is that I had two weeks off, in beforehand, I’d have made that imply my enterprise goes to fail. I’m going to be falling behind. And I’d simply have like, I wouldn’t even have the ability to articulate it simply this sense of like, shit gonna go unhealthy. And I have to be there each second.

And it’s so highly effective. I’ve finished this numerous totally different instances we simply seem to be the world retains spinning. Like that’s one thing I inform myself very often like, it simply sort of provides me the sense of calm just like the world will hold spinning. If I miss this deadline, the world will hold spinning if this occurs the world will hold spinning if that occurs the world will hold spinning prefer it simply jogs my memory that it’s not a giant fucking deal. And I discover it actually calming to simply have that thought to floor me.

And so I did put together podcast episode in order that whereas I used to be away, these two weeks that I might be exhibiting up right here on the podcast. However I emailed my e-mail subscribers and stated, Hey, I’m not going to be emailing you for a few weeks. As a result of that is so vital. I wish to be an instance of what I educate. And I educate that relaxation is vital. And I educate that doing your personal private improvement work is vital. So I actually wished to allow you to guys know that, like I might have automated every thing.

So that you wouldn’t have recognized that I used to be even in Bali, in order that every thing would simply seem like I used to be at house, hustling away. However I actually wish to educate that relaxation is vital. And you may take a step again and every thing will hold spinning, the world will hold spinning, your corporation can continue to grow if you are resting. And I did that, and I stated to my e-mail listing, hey, I’m not going to be emailing you. I’m having a break, I’m working towards what I preach, I’m doing my very own private improvement work, I’m having a relaxation.

And in addition, individuals in all probability wouldn’t have observed, until I had stated, Hey, I’m having two weeks off. And regardless that which may sound a bit unhappy that perhaps nobody would discover. However I discover it so liberating, as a result of it simply takes that stress off me to have every thing be a sure means on a regular basis, and to simply permit myself to be human and to have an actual human expertise. And to be an instance of somebody who’s rising their enterprise and making an influence, however has per week off.

And my plan is to have the final week of each quarter off. In order that’d be the final week of June, which is definitely when my anniversary with Steve is. After which the final week of September, and no final week of the yr. And I’m simply calling that out as like that is day without work non negotiable. Even when I’ve nothing to do, and I’m sitting at house, twiddling my thumbs. I’m not doing any enterprise work, I’m having that week off. I’m having that area for myself.

So my advice, in case you are at the moment feeling very connected to being productive on a regular basis, my largest recommendation to you is to begin placing in only one small boundary about while you aren’t allowed to be productive. So I did this, like I began experimenting with this after I was nonetheless finding out, I did legislation and finance twin diploma. And I imply, everybody was all the time saying like, wow, you should be having to do quite a lot of research. And so it sort of fed into that want as nicely to be productive on a regular basis slash wanting busy feeling busy.

However I observed that when research was an choice 24/7 it meant that after I was chilling, or after I was at a pal’s place, or with household, or at my job, that I all the time felt responsible, as a result of research was all the time an choice. So what I did, and I did this, for one of many Summers was I dedicated to and this is sort of a actually previous weblog put up on my weblog. I’ll hyperlink it within the present notes if anybody needs to learn it. However I dedicated to I wished to go to the seaside each weekend, I dwell about an hour away from the Gold Coast within the Sunshine Coast. And we have now so many lovely seashores right here.

And I had observed that I barely had gone to the seaside in any respect, and I like the seaside. So I dedicated to myself that I used to be gonna go to the seaside each single weekend, even when it was on my own, which I’ve no problem with doing that. However even when it was just for like me to be there for an hour, so I drive an hour simply to remain for an hour after which drive an hour house, which was nice as a result of I like audiobooks.

And I then needed to do all of my research all through the week. And it was simply not an choice to check on the weekend. And I needed to get every thing finished all through the week. And what it meant was that I needed to be extra productive. I didn’t have the time anymore to procrastinate and there was this clear finish in sight the place my mind might get this reprieve and will have this relaxation. So I received a lot extra productive.

I studied a lot extra like I used to be truly a lot extra engaged by forcing myself to have much less time. And I spoke about this in Episode 99. However that’s what I’m experimenting with this upcoming quarter from April to the tip of June, with truly reducing my work hours, to being not more than 4 hours per day, that is excluding Sundays, after I’ll be on my teaching calls and doing podcast episodes. However after I’m within the co working area, I’m going to be doing three hours of lively private improvement. After which the remainder of the time might be work. And I’m making that smaller as a result of it was initially six hours, I’m making it smaller, in order that I’ve to be extra intentional with that point.

And I’ve to actually prioritize, and I’ve to actually plan it, as a result of I don’t have sufficient time to be sloppy with it. So in case you have this 24/7 every thing’s on the desk, every thing’s an choice sort of method. It’s really easy to be sloppy with time. And also you might need discovered this the place you might have quite a lot of time in your day, like, Yeah, I’m gonna go to the health club, however you by no means truly resolve while you’re going to go and also you’re like, I’ll go after breakfast, and I don’t really feel prefer it. I’ll go after lunch.

Truly, I’ll go earlier than dinner. Now it’s dinner, I’ll go after dinner. Oh, wait, it’s too late. Like, typically when we have now essentially the most time, that’s after we may be so sloppy with it. And I’ve all the time discovered that I’m the best when I’ve the least period of time to get issues finished. It’s Parkinson’s Legislation, the time it takes to do one thing expands to the time we have now to do it. And the identical with contracting, if we have now much less time to get one thing finished, we can do it in much less time.

In order that’s the method that I’m taking. However for me, one thing I’m actually specializing in, is having Saturday off, that’s non negotiable. After which I’m in that non-public improvement time. I’m going to hyperlink an episode that Brooke Castillo shared about tremendous considering. However I’m truly going to be asking my mind higher questions as an alternative of simply all the time been on autopilot mode. And persevering with with my similar ideas and doing issues in the identical means. Like, sure, a few of that point, we’ll be watching Netflix with Steve and chilling and doing no matter.

However then a few of that point as nicely, the private improvement time, I’m going to be doing private improvement work, together with what Brooke calls tremendous considering, which is principally asking your mind higher questions, actually evaluating your life and bringing your mindset as much as the following stage. I haven’t defined that very nicely, however she explains it rather well in her podcast episode. So I’ll hyperlink that for you as nicely within the present notes. However I’m actually making an attempt to say right here, this episode, relaxation is so extremely vital. And in the event you’re like on the lookout for productiveness ideas, you’re making an attempt to determine why is it that I can’t observe via? Why is it that I all the time really feel responsible after I relaxation, then I actually have only one motion step for you right now.

And that’s to carve out one little pocket of time within the week, only one, teeny, tiny that it’s fully off the desk to do no matter that factor is you usually really feel responsible about whether or not that’s working in your corporation, working in your weblog, finding out, cleansing, I don’t care, no matter it’s that you simply’re like, I must be doing that perhaps it’s even studying, perhaps it’s meditating, perhaps you’ve turned all of these enjoyable private improvement issues right into a chore.

Simply no matter you’re feeling responsible about. Sometimes, while you’re resting, I need you to simply have just a little pocket of time. If it feels uncomfortable, meaning you’re doing it proper. Let’s have this pocket of time the place you’re not allowed to do something productive. And this isn’t particularly vital. Should you don’t consider you might have sufficient time to do it. Should you consider you don’t have a really useful minimal one hour, however ideally, I’d such as you to take a look at half a day in the event you might even a full day like I do. Like we have now to attract the road within the sand for ourselves as a result of nobody else goes to do this.

Notably I do know so lots of you listening to this are entrepreneurs otherwise you wish to be nobody tells us when the day is over. So we have now to attract that line for ourselves. And if we don’t, then we run our mind down as a result of we’re continuously feeling responsible and we find yourself on this self pity cycle once more, episode 84 If you wish to hear about that, however we simply find yourself exhausting our mind due to all of the feelings we’re feeling after we’re resting.

However in the event you can carve out time, and once more, in the event you don’t really feel like you might have the time to do that, you then positively want to do that. It’s sort of like the identical with meditation train, in the event you don’t really feel like you might have the time, that’s while you want it essentially the most. That’s how this works, too. Should you don’t really feel like you might have sufficient time to have the privilege to chop a while out, I promise you, even in the event you experiment with this for simply two weeks, that you simply’ll must be extra intentional along with your time when you might have much less, and also you’ll be extra productive.

After which while you’re in that point interval, the place you’re not allowed to do the productive factor, you’ll have to truly discover. Wait, who am I after I’m not being productive? And the way may be uncomfortable in The 4 Hour Workweek, by Tim Ferriss, I’ll hyperlink his ebook and his the podcast episode I did concerning the ebook, he talks in that about filling the void. So the 4 hour workweek, in the event you like productiveness, you’ll love the ebook, he talks about easy methods to be simpler. And the purpose isn’t actually to work 4 hours per week is simply to actually spend time on solely the issues that matter. And he talks about within the remaining chapter about filling the void and the significance of doing that.

As a result of lots of people, and that is truly after I began enjoying round with having day without work after I learn that ebook. He talks about how after we truly get actually efficient and after we create this spare time, so many people don’t even know what we wish to do in that point, which is so ironic as a result of all of us fantasize about having extra time. After which we get it. We’re like oh my god, what I do right now. So lots of people fill that void with busy work and what he calls W4W which is figure for work sake.

And I discovered myself like that’s what I used to be doing, too. I didn’t know what I wished to do in my downtime. And there was all the time this infinite to do lists. Okay, so I’ll simply hold engaged on my to do listing. Nevertheless it was actually uncomfortable for me. For the primary couple of months of getting that full time off. I used to be like, wait, what do I love to do particularly for me, like, this enterprise is basically based mostly on one thing I’m very interested in personally, and I’d be doing quite a lot of private improvement.

Even when I wasn’t sharing it, it’s one thing that was a pastime for me. And now it’s like, okay, nicely who am I exterior of all of that, and what different issues do I like doing and one thing that I’ve found I like doing is studying about inside design and studying about gardening like exterior and in addition indoor crops. I like indoor crops. Final night time, I used to be researching which indoor crops to get in my workplace, I have already got 5 – 6 of them that I need a couple of biggies to have in several corners of the room. However that’s one thing that I’m actually keen on that I don’t actually discuss, I don’t share I don’t put up about it.

Like that’s simply one thing I do for me and I wanted to search out various things that I actually loved doing that didn’t have this outcome connected that weren’t productive that I simply get pleasure from for the sake of doing them. So in the event you really feel quite a lot of resistance to carving out a while, even in the event you carve out 40 minutes, simply so you’ll be able to watch your favourite Netflix present with out feeling responsible belief me it seems like so totally different to as an alternative of getting all this 24/7 purpose of productiveness after which procrastinating and you then really feel shit to simply make the time you procrastinate. Anyway, carve that out as time that you could have off guilt free, then please DM me and inform me the way it goes.

However in the event you’re feeling resistant, please do that. I don’t know if I’ve articulated this nicely however having two weeks off actually simply confirmed me, A, The world retains spinning, B, nobody actually discover. And that’s like so liberating for me. And C, that my enterprise like can truly develop my enterprise continued to develop whereas I wasn’t engaged on it. So it helps me to disconnect laborious work from success and having to earn it and buying and selling time for cash. I made cash, vital quantity of great quantities of cash whereas I used to be resting. And in order that’s actually highly effective as nicely to simply have additional proof that that’s potential.

So, yeah, it was actually nice and to simply have just a little minute to overlook my enterprise was actually useful and to get enthusiastic about it once more and to have contemporary concepts and And with the Tremendous considering stuff, and principally simply doing quite a lot of journaling and including time for my mind to make connections for my unconscious thoughts to deliver concepts to the floor that always I’m so busy that I ignore my instinct and people hunches that I’ve, similar to truly permitting myself to listen to them and to think about performing on them and what that might seem like. In order that’s all I’ve to share with you in right now’s episode. I hope this has been useful. I do really feel like I’ve simply babbled on about this. However that’s what this podcast is. Thanks for being right here. I like you. I recognize you. And I’ll discuss to you within the subsequent episode. Bye.

In order that was handed me from 2019, sharing what it’s to be resting with out guilt, why that’s vital, and what that may seem like. So I hope that you simply discovered that useful, I hope it has impressed you to actually make clear relaxation a precedence in your life and in your corporation. So this sequence is all about clear relaxation. And within the subsequent episode, I’m going to be sharing 5 explanation why clear relaxation is difficult while you’re working from a to do listing and what to do as an alternative, if you wish to get clear relaxation, if you realize that that’s one thing that’s going to be vital for you on your corporation journey.

And in the event you can relate to what I share on this podcast, then that’s going to be the case, then I wish to just remember to are setting your self up for fulfillment. And meaning that you’re planning correctly and that you simply aren’t working from a to do listing it’s simply so laborious to get good high quality, clear relaxation and to get it off in and off. Whenever you’re strolling from a to do listing, I’m going to share precisely why that’s within the subsequent episode and what to do as an alternative.

Then within the third episode, on this sequence, I’m sharing easy methods to plan out your clear relaxation and the way a lot you have to be getting. After which the episode after that’s going to be what counts as clear relaxation and what doesn’t. After which lastly, on this sequence, I’m going to be sharing what I rise up to after I’m taking clear relaxation, what that appears like for me and the way my clear breasts observe has developed over time and in addition as I’ve gone via totally different phases of my enterprise and in addition totally different levels of life as nicely.

So with that stated, ensure you go and discover out extra about becoming a member of us in PGSD to observe clear relaxation to observe planning correctly and all of these issues.

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